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Figured out who sent me the gift


I love how the universe works. I wrote the Day “You never know how much of a difference you make” about a week ago. It was published on Friday December 22, 2006. I had no clue who had sent me the wonderful gift with the note saying what a difference I had made to her. On Friday I received an order from this woman. She had no idea that I had written about her, she simply decided to order a CD that day. Isn’t that wild. I was so happy because I was able to send her a thank you note, which I did immediately. I am delighted that the mystery is solved and I am able to let her know how much I appreciated her kindness.

Live the Day

You never know how much of a difference you make

There is a great poem written by Dr. Kent M. Keith entitled, “The Paradoxical Commandments,” later made more spiritual by Mother Teresa. The poem simply states that all the good you do will be forgotten. When you do good, people will accuse you of being selfish, and when you succeed, you will attract false friends. However, throughout the poem you are encouraged to “Do it anyway, Succeed anyway, Do good anyway.” I love this poem and often think about it when I have done something and don’t get the acknowledgement I expected or worse get criticized for it. I know that I simply need to do it anyway. I also know that we all make a difference. The challenge is we may never know to whom or what difference we make. That is okay. Just make a difference anyway.

I speak with hundreds of people a year advising and supporting them in changing their lives. Many people contact me wanting to know more about becoming a coach and, although it takes time, I like to help these people. I might spend an hour or so on the telephone or time composing an e-mail. I often never hear back from the person after our first contact. I never know what they do with the information I gave them, but I give it anyway.

A couple weeks ago, I received a gift in the mail with a note that read:

“Dear Rachelle,
My life has been greatly enriched because I had the “Good Fortune” of meeting you! Thank you for spending time with me on the phone and graciously telling me about your coaching journey. You INSPIRE me.”

Although the note was signed, I have no idea who this person is. I can’t find her on any of my databases, she isn’t a member of 365 DOC, and I can’t even find her name in my appointment book.

The fact is it doesn’t matter who this person is. It only matters that whatever I did it made a difference for her. I may never figure out who she is, although I would like to, so I can thank her. What matters is this is a powerful example of what a difference one can make in the world simply by helping others.


Rachelle, you may never receive a gift or a thank you from the people you help. Help them anyway. The good you do in the world makes a difference, and it will come back to you in many different ways.

Coaching Question

Who can you make a difference for today?

Live the Day

Make it a practice to make a difference, even if you never know what difference you make. Make it anyway.

To read the poem the “The Paradoxical Commandments” go to:


“A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle.” Anonymous

“An effort made for the happiness of others lifts above ourselves.” Lydia Maria Child

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” Anonymous

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