Although this might seem like an odd topic for Self Care Month is actually is very appropriate. It is all about accepting yourself the way you are. When you can do that you create choice in what you want to do about it. You can also give up negative habits such as beating yourself up over whatever it is you are not happy with. Acceptance is the first step in changing your life.
I have struggled with my weight all my life. I am a human yo-yo. Weight is a heavy issue and a concern for many people. Oprah dedicated this month’s “O” magazine to the subject. The problem with eating is that most of us can’t stop. I read about breathairians, though, who claimed they existed on air and water. The thing about having food as a drug of choice is it is legal, easy to obtain and socially acceptable. Lets face it, no one, to my knowledge, was ever pulled over for eating and driving.
So what to do about this weight thing? Well, lose it. But, until you are ready to do something about the weight, do something about how you feel about the weight. Losing the weight is not going to solve your problems. Dealing with your self-esteem and learning to love yourself is a great way to begin to handle the weight. As you begin to feel better about yourself, you might decide to lose the weight, or not. It really is up to you what you do about your weight, but you don’t have to wait to start feeling better about yourself and begin to love yourself just the way you are.
Most of us know what to do to lose weight. I could write a bestselling weight loss book. The problem is not the lack of knowledge; it is lack of willingness to do what it takes. There are also medical reasons why people can’t lose weight. Weight brings with it many challenges, not the least are the effects it can have on self-esteem and self-love. Until you are ready to do something about the weight, decide to do something about how you feel about yourself and begin to practice extreme self-care. The better you feel on the inside, the more you will want to take care of yourself in many ways, which might include losing weight.
Here’s to taking action,
Today is Ash Wednesday, a holiday that was celebrated by my family when I was growing up. We would go to church and get ashes on our forheads. We also would decide what we would give up for Lent.
No matter what relgion you are I suggest looking at what you can give up during the Lent Season. Think about giving up negative self talk, habits that do not sure you or actions that are not moving your forward. Create goals and plan to take a step towards those goals for the next 46 days until Easter. If you did that you would be celebrating a much more positive you for Easter.
For information on just exactly why Ash Wednesday is celebrated click here.
Here’s to taking action,
Today we are celebrating Fat Tuesday. As a kid I really never knew why, although I was familiar with the term. The following day, Ash Wendesday I was more familiar with. Fat Tuesday however is a big holiday for some! To find out more about Fat Tuesday and exactly why it is celebrated click here.
Although Fat Tuesday is a holiday with religious roots you don’t have to be religious to create your own traditions. Mardi Gras is actually based on Fat Tuesday and that is anything but religious. My husband and I are planning to attend a Fat Tuesday celebration that is about celebrating life and all the wonderful things it has to offer. You might think about spending time with friends, preparing a special meal or just taking time to write down everything you are grateful for.
Here’s to taking action,
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Self-care is a major part of having a healthy and happy life. We can sometimes think of self-care as being selfish, but it isn’t. It is about self-love, which can be very difficult for some of us. When it comes to self-care, one area of our bodies that is often neglected is our feet. It can be easy to take our feet for granted, but for our health’s sake we need to pay attention to the two parts of our body that give us support and mobility.
The human foot is an engineering marvel, being a combination of 26 bones, 33 joints and 107 ligaments linked by a network of muscles, nerves and blood vessels. The average adult takes thousands of steps a day. With each step, the foot strikes the ground with up to three times our body weight. That’s a lot for our feet to put up with.
Make sure you are wearing shoes that are comfortable and provide support. It is difficult to be your best if your feet hurt. I know it can be tempting to wear shoes because they look good, but resist. Life is way too short to wear uncomfortable shoes. I was watching the television show, “What Not to Wear” and the guest was wearing a pair of $600.00 shoes. The host asked, “Are they comfortable?” and the guest replied, “No, but they sure do look good!” The host simply shook her head and looked into the camera and said, “You too can be uncomfortable for $600.00.” Please, I think I will save my $600.00 and buy several pairs of comfortable shoes.
Receiving regular pedicures, in a salon or at home can help to keep your feet healthy and happy. A pedicure may seem like a luxury, but they actually are something that can help with the maintenance of your feet. A recent study involving elderly people showed that those who had regular pedicures were healthier overall than those who did not. Moreover, pedicures are not just for women. At the salon I go to, I see more and more men in the pedicure chair. In addition, there are services such as reflexology, chiropractic services for feet, and my favorite, a foot massage, to help keep feet healthy and happy.
It may seem odd to talk about feet, but self-care of the body is vital when it comes to having a great life. Our feet provide support and mobility and earn some special attention. Don’t overlook taking care of the part of your body that provides support and mobility. As a friend of mine who has diabetes tells me, it is easy to take feet for granted, but it comes at a high price.
For additional resources on the care of your feet, check out the following websites:
Taking Care of Your Feet
Do something this week to take care of your feet. Have a pedicure, buy a new pair of shoes or have a foot massage. You feet provide you with support and mobility. Take care of them.
One of my campers shared this amazing Video with me. It was submitted as part of an AARP video contest and won 2nd place. I have no idea what the first place video must have been like.
Click here and watch the entire thing. This will make you think!
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Although it is nice to have a special day to celebrate love, it doesn’t have to last just one day. Everyday can be a day of love, and the first person to show how much you care for is you. Now, before anyone thinks I am talking about being narcissistic, don’t worry. What I am talking about is simply taking excellent care of yourself so that you have the energy and the desire to share your gifts, love, time and other resources with others.
When we give from an overflowing cup, we give with joy and love. When we give from an empty cup, we give from a place of lack and hardship, maybe even martyrdom. Filling our cup to overflowing helps us to be generous with others. It is so much easier to give joyfully when that giving comes from a place of feeling nurtured.
There are many ways to take care of yourself and show how much you care. Here are just a few suggestions:
- Give yourself the gift of a flower of the month club, or week, and have fresh flowers delivered to your office or home
- Indulge yourself in a delicious meal at your favorite restaurant
- Set aside one night a week to do something just for you
- Create a space in your home that is your space. Fill it up with things that you love and that support and comfort you
- Designate one of your desk drawers as you comfort drawer. Keep special treats, aromatherapy items, and any kind of de-stresser you might enjoy.
There are many ways to take care of yourself. What you do isn’t as important as just taking care of yourself and filling up your cup. Self-care is actually the nicest thing you can do not only for yourself, but also for the loved ones in your life. The better you take care of yourself, the better you will be able to take care of them.
We all do so much for others and truly I wouldn’t change that. One of my top five values is generosity. I love giving to others, but that doesn’t mean that I can’t be generous with myself too. I deserve to be treated just as wonderfully as I treat others. And so do you.
The reason for self-care is to take care of yourself so you can be your best in everything you do.
This week write in your journal what you can do for yourself and what you should do for yourself this week.
“Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin as self-neglecting.” William Shakespeare
“Every day, in every way, I am getting better and better.” Emile Coue
“I am the greatest!” Muhammad Ali
Happy Valentine’s Day
Today is the day of lovers and one very important type of love is self-love. I am not talking about being selfish and self-absorbed. I am talking about self-respect, self care and loving yourself enough to be your own best Valentine. When you love yourself, you are able to love others and allow others to love you back. Today is a great day to show how much you appreciate you.
If you would like to receive flowers, candy or a gift, then send yourself flowers, buy yourself a gift or buy some delicious candy. If someone else buys you a gift, that will just be icing on the cake. Treat yourself to a special coffee in the morning or go to your favorite restaurant for lunch or dinner. Perhaps schedule a special spa treatment for later in the week or leave work early and indulge in a special treat. Whatever makes you feel special and loved is what you should do today. In addition, be open to the love and appreciation you receive from others. Loving yourself allows you to receive the love and affection others have to offer.
Don’t wait for someone to make your day. Make your own day by showering yourself with love and appreciation. Whatever will make this day special for you is what you should do. I have been known to send myself flowers, buy myself a box of Godiva chocolate or spend time at the spa. It isn’t about being selfish; it is about self-love and care. The more you love and care for yourself, the more you can love and care for others.
How will you show yourself how much you are loved?
“You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy.” Anonymous
“I don’t like myself, I’m crazy about myself.” Mae West
“If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.” Barbara De Angelis
In the children’s fable, “The Goose that Laid the Golden Egg,” there was a goose that produced a golden egg each day. In an attempt to get all the golden eggs, the goose was killed. Unfortunately, a dead goose does not produce any eggs, so killing the goose was the end of the good fortune.
I was thinking about this fable and how it relates to the way we treat ourselves. We are our own golden goose. We are the ones that create the golden eggs in our lives. Unfortunately, we do not always recognize how important we are and how important our self-care is. We fail to see that if we do not take care of ourselves, we will end up like the goose, unable to produce golden eggs. We will be stressed, sick and depleted.
When I suggest self-care to some of my clients, they shun the idea at first because they think it is selfish. And they are right, it is. But not selfish in the way that we ignore others or step over others to get what we want. Self-care is about taking care of ourselves so that we can take care of others and give from a place of abundance and love. It is difficult to take care of anyone else if we are exhausted and spent. We end up giving from a place of lack and resentment and that does not benefit anyone.
Taking care of the golden goose in your life (you) is an important first step in creating a more abundant and happy life. When we take care of ourselves, we have more energy, enthusiasm and compassion for others. We can give from a place of abundance and not lack. Giving becomes something we do because we want to not because we have to. Taking care of ourselves is really the first step in being more generous and loving to others.
Are you taking care of the golden goose?
“Kill not the goose that lays the golden egg.” Traditional Proverb