Do Something Beautiful for Yourself
If you want more beauty in your life it is up to you to add it. Beauty means different things to different people. Beauty is in the eyes and hearts of the beholder. Beauty is different to each person.
Beauty comes from within and is an outward expression of how we feel about our surroundings and ourselves. Creating beauty brings forth our inner beauty. For me, it is important to be surrounded by things that I love and that nurture me. Beauty comes from having the visually appealing around me. Beauty is uncluttered space and fresh cut flowers near. Beauty is pictures of my friends, family, and pets displayed throughout my environment. Beauty is a soothing environment, lovely music, and delicious smells. Beauty is feeling safe and comforted in my living and working spaces. Creating beauty is the gift I give myself that makes me feel good about where I am.
When those things that we love, including friends and family surround us, we create beauty in our lives. Having a beautiful life means that we are nurtured and supported by what surrounds us. The beauty that we create on the outside is an expression of our inner beauty.
If we don’t see beauty around us, it could mean that we have not tapped into our inner beauty. We haven’t allowed ourselves to express fully who we are. Beauty is an expression of how we regard and respect ourselves.
Look around you, what do you see? If your environment isn’t beautiful to you, how can you change it to more reflect the beauty within you?
Daily Success Formula
Outward beauty = Reflection of Inner Beauty
“Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.” Confucius
“There is certainly no absolute standard of beauty. That precisely is what makes its pursuit so interesting.” John Kenneth Galbraith
“For the man sound in body and serene of mind there is no such thing as bad weather, every sky has its beauty, and storms which whip the blood do but make it pulse more vigorously.” George Gissing
The Law of Large Numbers
It is often said that sales is a numbers game. The more people we contact the more chances we have to make a sale. That seems pretty obvious. The more people we contact the better chance we have of making a sale.
This doesn’t just work in sales. It works in life. If we want to get a date or find a job the more people we talk to the greater chance we have of being successful. Sitting at home wishing and hoping that someone stops by doesn’t usually get us what we want. We have to be willing to make ourselves obvious.
The Law of Large Numbers simply tells us that, whatever we want, we have to be willing to get in touch with people who will lead us to what we want. It may be someone we meet knows someone who will want to buy our product, has a job opening, or perhaps knows a single friend. We never know who knows whom so the more people we encounter the greater our chances are of finding what we want.
If you want to be successful applying the Law of Large Numbers will help you. Someone out there wants to buy your product, has a job opening, or wants to meet a single friend. The trick is to find them. One of the ways is to get out there and start meeting people. The more people you get in touch with the greater your chances of finding what you need.
I met a woman who was starting a consulting business. She said that she wasn’t too concerned that she would be successful because she was following the rule of a successful salesperson. The rule was simple. Contact ten people everyday and tell them what she was doing. Her friend told her that if she would commit to doing this success would be certain. Just think about this. If you contacted ten people five days a week you will have talked to fifty people about what you need. Multiply that by four and you have two hundred people who now know what you are looking for in a month. In a year, you will have talked to 2400 people who now know what you are looking for. And who knows who they know.
Who can you let know what you need today?
Daily Success Formula
Contact + Willingness + Persistence = Law of Large Numbers
“Let the Law of Large Numbers work for you, and your numbers will get large.” Harvey Mackay
Okay here we are at Step Five. Big drum roll, the fifth step is – CREATE A PLAN!!!
I know it sounds simple but it is the part that often gets missed. It is the reason that New Year’s Resolutions don’t work, there is no plan. Nothing happens without a plan.
First lets review what the first four steps were:
Step one: Write your top 100 accomplishments for the year
Step two: Clarify your values
Step three: Create your Theme for the year
Step four: Set Goals
Once you have your goals set you have to then create a plan for each goal. The key is that each goal that you have can be broken down into smaller steps. For example if your goal is to loose 50 pounds this year here is what the plan could look like.
Find a food program (such as Weight Watchers, Adkins, Slim for Life) or whatever will work for you. Remember it isn’t about finding the best plan it is about what plan will be best for you.
Start an exercise routine – this could mean joining a gym, hiring a trainer, or getting a treadmill. Again what is going to be best for you.
Now write down all the steps you can think of that you need to take to get started. Example:
Join Weight Watchers
Join the gym
Buy exercise cloths
Buy new exercise shoes
Clean out refrigerator and pantry
Go grocery shopping for healthy food on program
Find a buddy to workout with
Once you take the steps necessary to get started, and it may take you a week or so to get everything accomplished so you can get started, it is time to create a daily plan. The good news about this is you don’t have to do a lot in order to receive big results. Doing just a few steps a day will get you to your goal.
Your daily plan may look something like this:
Keep food diary
Exercise for 20 minutes
That is it. You only have to do a few things in order to get big results. You don’t always have to do the same things each day, just make sure that you are doing at least one to five things towards you goal every day. This will get you in the habit of focusing on your goal and taking action.
Keep in mind that what you are doing towards you goal isn’t instead of but in addition to what you are already doing. You may also be working on other goals however I would recommend focusing on just two to three goals at a time. These are the goals that you will be taking action on every day.
Take time to create your plan and you will have a better chance of succeeding than if you just wing it. Having a plan will keep you on track and focused.
Okay we are almost there. In just a couple of days I will be sharing step 6 of the Wrap it Up process with you.
Here’s to taking action,
Create Your Own Private Sanctuary
Everyone needs a place where they can go and relax. It’s OK if you can’t have an entire room dedicated for your own personal sanctuary. Even a small corner can become a haven for escape from the hustle and bustle of life.
Somewhere in your home, carve out a space that is just for you. I have taken a corner of my bedroom. In this corner is a love seat with the perfect light for reading. I have pillows with fun saying on them and some that are just lush and comfy. I have a bookshelf with pictures and mementos of my life, a water fountain and a large wicker chest that I use for a coffee table that holds candles and smell pretties. This is the space where I go when I just want to relax, read a book, meditate or take a nap. It is my personal sanctuary that supports and comforts me.
In addition to having an entire space dedicated to you, there are ways to add your special touch to every room or place that you spend time. Having fresh flowers around is a special way of creating a special feeling. Pictures of family and bowls of favorite treats can add a special feeling.
Your desk at work can be your own special sanctuary. Flowers, pictures, and personal mementos can create that special feeling. Also keep lotion, fresh fruit and healthy treats and even something interesting to read. When you need a break you can grab what you need and find a quiet place, or simply stay at your desk and take a moment to refresh yourself.
Surrounding ourselves with the things we love can create a feeling of a personal sanctuary. When we surround ourselves with what we love we feel cared for and special. Having a space or even just an object in a space can help us reconnect with our inner harmony when the outside world gets to hectic.
Do you have a personal sanctuary?
Daily Success Formula
Objects that we love + Peaceful space = Personal Sanctuary
“No one realizes how beautiful it is to travel until he comes home and rests his head on his old, familiar pillow.” Lin Yutang
“Within your heart, keep one still, secret spot where dreams may go.” Louise Driscoll
“Sanctuary, on a personal level, is where we perform the job of taking care of our soul.” Christopher Forrest McDowell
Create Your Family
There are two kinds of family, family by birth and family by choice. Family by birth is those people that are in our lives because we were born into their lives. Family by choice is people who we choose to maintain a close relationship.
I know many people who have chosen family members. A good friend of mine has what she calls “her chosen mother.” Another friend of mine has “adopted” several brothers and sisters. She is an only child and always wanted siblings. I also have “adopted” a brother. My “brother” is the brother of my best friend. I adore her brother so I decided to simply make him my brother too.
Choosing family members is a wonderful way to create a deep connection with special people. By creating additional family members we are creating a special bond with people. My family has several people that we have “adopted” into our family. My parent’s next-door neighbor, Mrs. Smith, is like an aunt to me and always attends special family functions. We limit our experiences and ourselves if we simply have birth family. Allowing others to become “family” broadens our ability to touch others in a special way.
We have the ability to add to our birth family by choosing special people to be our “family members” by choice. Creating that bond with people outside of our birth family widens our circle of love and community.
Who would you like to add to your family?
Daily Success Formula
Chosen Friends + Special Relationship = Family by Choice
“My family was so poor they couldn’t afford any kids. The lady next door had me.” Lee Trevino
“The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other’s life.” Richard Bach
Here we are at Step Four to our Wrap it Up process for 2008. The first three steps were:
Step one: Write your top 100 accomplishments for the year
Step two: Clarify your values
Step three: Create your Theme for the year
And now for Step Four, Goal Setting. I know you must have seen that one coming. Once you have celebrated and acknowledged your accomplishments, clarified your values and set your theme for the year, the next step is to create your goals for 2009.
I would be the first to admit there are hundreds of processes that will support you in setting goals. The best one is the one that works best for you. Here is one that I use to help you clarify what you want to work on. I am referencing the Prosperity Board in the goal setting process. One of the most powerful things you can do is create a visual for your goals, and the Prosperity Board helps you do that.
Goal Setting Overview
1. Make sure the goals you set are for something that you really want, not just
something that sounds good, or you think you should want, or someone else thinks you should have.
2. Goals and actions must work together.
If you have a goal of spending more time with your family, it doesn’t make sense to take a job that includes 90% travel.
3. If you need help from other people in achieving your goal, will you have their
If you need others to achieve your goal, make sure that they also have the same goal as you. It won’t work if you are working towards a goal that they do not want or are not willing to help you achieve.
4. Write your goal in the positives instead of the negative. Work for what you want, not for what you want to leave behind.
5. Write your goal out in complete detail.
Instead of writing, “I want to complete my degree,” write, “I want to complete my bachelors within two years with a 3.5 grade point average.” The clearer you are about what you want the better you will be able to focus on it.
6. Make your goal a stretch. Your goal should be challenging enough to compel you. It should be just out of reach but not unreachable.
7. Turn your goals into positive affirmations. Write your goals as if they already have happened. Such as “I have successfully completed my bachelors degree with a 3.5 GPA.”
So your goals are written down. Now what?
1. Share your goals only with those who will support you in achieving them. Negative attitudes from those who do not share your enthusiasm for your goal can quickly drag you down.
2. Use positive self-talk to keep yourself motivated and passionate about your goal.
3. Review your goals daily. This way you will remind yourself of what you need to do each day to get closer to making your goal a reality. Positive self-talk works on both the subconscious and conscious minds to support you in creating what you want.
4. As you are making decisions, ask yourself how this supports your goals. Will this take you closer or further from the goal? If the answer is “closer to,” then you are on the right track. If the answer is “further from” the goal, then it would be a good idea to rethink the decision and see if you can rework it to make it bring your closer to your goal.
Warning: It is natural to take detours on your way to your goals. However, if you keep the goal in mind it will be easier to get back on track. Don’t be too hard on yourself for straying from time to time, it happens. And you don’t want to be so rigid in your goals that you are closed to other opportunities that present themselves. The Prosperity Board will help you stay on track to your goals by providing a visual aide that keeps the goal right in front of you.
Questions to ask yourself when setting your goals
By When? Nothing happens without a deadline. Give your goal a deadline and you will be more likely to achieve it.
How committed am I to working on this goal?
How does this goal support my Values?
What about this goal is exciting, compelling, and enthusing?
What would be the risk of not doing this? Would I regret it?
Who will support me in achieving this goal?
How will I celebrate when I achieve this goal?
How will I represent this goal on my Prosperity Board?
What type of pictures will best represent the feeling of what I am trying to achieve.
So go ahead set goals for 2009. No you don’t have to wait until the New Year. We still have two more steps to take in the Wrap it Up process so no need to wait. By the time the New Year rolls around you will be ready with goals in hand!
Here’s to taking Action,
Create A Prosperity Board
‘Tis the season to create your vision for the New Year. On New Year’s Eve for the last couple of years, my friend Kathryn, my husband and I have met to design our New Year. We do this by creating what I call a Prosperity Board. The board is simply a collection of cut out pictures and words that represent our goals, aspirations, and dreams for the New Year. I create several, one for my personal life, one for my work life, and one for my relationship with my husband. I even have small ones that I carry around in my day-timer. The visual of my goals helps keep me on track and reminds me of my intentions for the New Year.
Here is some information to get you started creating your prosperity board.
A prosperity board is a great visual affirmation of your goals. Your prosperity board is a powerful tool because it appeals directly to the right side of your brain, which is the part of your brain that responds to feelings and images.
Your prosperity board displays pictures and words that symbolize what you truly want to a have in your life. By focusing your energies on what you want to manifest, your creative imagination will simply cause it to become a reality.
Directions for creating a Prosperity Board
Get a medium sized bulletin board (you can also use a poster board, but you will not be able to change and update it as easily). Hang your bulletin board in a place where you will see it everyday and often during the day. My business one hangs in my office next to my desk.
Next, cut out pictures and words from magazines, catalogs and newspapers that depict the things you want in your life. I have a picture of a Saab 900 Convertible hanging on my board. I also have a list of my goals, pictures that relate health and prosperity and pictures that represent a flourishing business. Whatever is a visual representation of your goals is what you want to hang on your board.
Next, affix the cutout elements in collage fashion on your board. There is no right or wrong way to do this, so just have fun with it. If it makes you feel great when you look at it, you have done it the way it needs to be done.
As you receive the items represented on your board, take those pictures and words down, write thank you across the front of them and put more pictures of your next desire in their place.
For more information about how to create a Prosperity Board visit www.yourprosperityboard.com
For me, the worst part of the holidays is when they are over. Not that I miss the holidays so much, I just hate cleaning up after them. Sure all the tinsel and lights looks festive and fun, but putting them away is anything but. Here are a few tips for taking the drudgery out of un-decking the halls.
First of all, you are not the only one who knows how or can un-decorate the halls, the living room and other areas of the home. Get the entire family involved. Assign each family member a section of the home to un-decorate and a date that it needs to be accomplished. That way everyone has a small piece of a large job and no one will feel overwhelmed. This is a great way to get everyone involved and teach each member responsibility.
Another group concept is to have an un-decorating party. A friend of mine has an annual New Year’s Eve bash where the purpose is to UN-decorate As guest arrive, she hands them bags, boxes and other storage devices and assigns them an area. In a short time, the house is un-decorated and everyone celebrates.
If UN-decorating is overwhelming, it could be because you have over-decorated to begin with. Paring down and keeping things simple allows for a touch of the holiday spirit without taking hours to put up or take down. I have pared my decorating way down. My Christmas tree, totally decorated, is stored in a garbage bag in the back of the basement. When it is time to put up the tree, I simply remove the bag and fluff the tree. I have a special holiday village that flanks the fireplace mantel and a few other festive ornaments. That is it. It takes about an hour to put everything out and an hour to put everything away. It adds a special holiday touch to my home without overwhelming me. The best advice I can give is to figure out what works for you as far as paring down is concerned and then create a system of putting up and taking down that will work for you.
Another alternative is to hire someone to put up the decorations and then come and take them down. I have a friend that hires herself out during the holidays to people who are too busy to decorate their homes. She will use their decorations or even go and purchase new ones for them as needed. The home is professionally decorated, looks fabulous and, best of all, when the holidays are over she arrives to un-decorates and put everything away. No fuss or muss on the client’s part. The same can be done with outdoor decorations.
While UN-decorating, notice what you need to replace and replenish for next year. Tinsel, tree ornaments, wrapping paper, and all holiday accoutrements go on sale after the holidays. This is a wonderful time to purchase everything you need for next year and save money and time. Holiday items are marked down 50% or more after the holidays and when you are getting ready for the holiday next year, you will have everything you need and won’t have to go out to get a thing. Don’t forget about holiday cards. This is the time to stock up.
Don’t overlook purchasing a goodie or two. Not that you can save these for next year’s holidays, but you will be able to get some of your favorites for an end of the year treat for a lot less. Every year after Christmas, I go to the Godiva Chocolatier and purchase a chocolate Santa for half price. Since I still have a few days until the New Year’s diet, I get to enjoy one of my favorite treats, a Godiva chocolate, for a lot less. The same with other treats such as bagged holiday candy and baked goods. Enjoy these as an end of year treat feeling satisfied that you saved money.
UN-decorating doesn’t have to be such a hassle if you get everyone involved and remember what the reason for the decorations were in the first place. The end of the holidays are simply the signal that a new year is right around the corner bringing with it gifts of new opportunity and possibilities. Enjoy the end, celebrate the beginning and enjoy the excitement the New Year brings.
Here’s to taking action,
Create Your Own Traditions
‘Tis the season and traditions abound. Traditions are wonderful because they keep us connected to that which is most important to us. Traditions are comforting because they add a constant to our lives and a certainty that isn’t always there. With all that is wonderful about traditions, they can also cause stress and discomfort. You don’t have to carry on a tradition, and you can always start new ones.
When it comes to traditions, I believe there are four basics rules to follow. Number one, embrace it. If you love a tradition, then by all means embrace it. My husband and I spend every Christmas with the Cook family. We have a low key low stress holiday that has become a tradition.
Rule number two is tweak it. There may be a tradition that you love, but it needs a makeover. As a child, we always had ham for Christmas, and my husband loves ham for the holiday, but I don’t want to bake the ham. I buy it already prepared and just heat it up. My husband gets the tradition and I don’t have the hassle.
Rule three, if you don’t love it, leave it. If there is a tradition that you don’t love, don’t do it. You don’t have to follow tradition if you don’t want to. If there is something that simply doesn’t make your holiday, leave it and follow rule four.
Rule number four is create your own traditions. As you establish your life, you will want to create your own traditions. Each year I pull a tag off the Christmas tree at my local grocery store and buy a present for the underprivileged child named there. I have been doing it for years, and it is my special tradition.
Traditions are wonderful, and can make the holiday special. As you grow into your own, you need to decide what traditions work for you, and what new ones you want to create.
Traditions are wonderful and they can also be a pain. If you don’t love a tradition then don’t do it. Why would you? Follow only the traditions that make your holiday bright and have meaning for you. Don’t waste your time on traditions that have long since lost their meaning.
Don’t be afraid to create your own traditions. Traditions that you create will have more meaning and add more joy to your holiday season.
“Tradition is a guide and not a jailer.” W. Somerset Maugham
The One-Minute Friend
It is wonderful to have friends that last a lifetime. I am blessed to have several friends in my life that I have had for years. I am also blessed to have many “One-Minute Friends.” One-minute friends are those people that come into our lives for a short time.
One-minute friends don’t have to last just one minute in time, although they can. I have met one-minute friends in line at the grocery store, at the petting zoo, or in a class. They last as long as the event does and when the event is over so is the friendship. One-minute friends are important because they help enrich the time that we are spending here on earth. Doing something with someone is often more fun than doing it alone and one-minute friends offer us companionship, if only for a minute.
One-minute friends can also last for an extended amount of time. Perhaps they are a neighbor that we live next to for only a short time, or a friend at work, or someone we share a common interest with. One-minute friends come into our lives for a reason. Each person, that we have contact with, teaches us something. They also learn from us. Once we have both received the gifts that the other brings to us in the form of life lessons the one-minute friend will move on.
I used to think that there was something wrong with me because people would come in and out of my life like there was an invisible revolving door that I could not see. Now I realize that not everyone we meet is going to be a life long friend and that is OK. Most of our friends will only stay for a while. People are in our lives for a reason and when that reason is no longer there they leave. Instead of being sad that friends come and go, it helps to look at the gifts that we have received and be happy for the time we had with our one-minute friends.
Friends will come and go. It is natural. I feel blessed to have had so many people come into my life and support and teach me along the way. One-minute friends are an important part of life because they enrich our experiences.
It may feel like friends breeze in and out of our lives. This can be a sad thing or we can shift our perception to realize that it is a very positive thing. One-minute friends help us enjoy events more, get through difficult times, and even teach us life lessons. They are the threads of life that enrich our experiences and sew together who we are.
Have you taken the time to appreciate your one-minute friends that you have met along the way?
Daily Success Formula
Supporting + Short Term + Fun + Common interest = One-minute friends
“A hedge between keeps friendship green.” Traditional Proverb
“Every man passes his life in the search after friendship.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Friendship demands the ability to do without it.” Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Friendship is the only thing in the world concerning the usefulness of which all mankind are agreed.” Marcus Tullius Cicero