Today is the extra day that we get because of Leap Year! Yea. But will an extra day really make a difference? No of course not, unless you want it to. Instead of looking at Leap Year as just one day, I like to think of Leap Year as an opportunity throughout the year to Leap toward my goals!
Here is an article I wrote about the importance of Leaping!
I know that many people advise looking before you leap. That is good advice, but it isn’t always practical. Taking risks sometimes requires that you leap before you look. There are times when there just isn’t enough time to look, investigate, or obtain all the facts. The only way we will know what all is involved is by jumping in and finding out.
Leaving my corporate job was truly a leap without looking. I had worked for the company for years so I had no idea what other opportunities were available, or how I would even go about finding them. I just had to leap and figure it out later. Leaping does require a certain amount of faith. You have to believe that there is something out there that will catch you.
It is smart to figure out as much as you can, but there is so much that you can’t know. There are times when you simply have to leap into the unknown. That requires that you trust that there is something out there, and that you will be provided with the information and support you need. I have found that, when I am willing to leap, I have been provided with what I needed at the right time.
Leaping actually doesn’t take as much bravery as one might guess. Often the leaps that we are required to take come out of necessity. When I left my corporate job, I didn’t know what I was going to do, I just knew I couldn’t stay. So leaping was the only answer. There often comes a time when leaping is the only way to move forward. More than bravery, leaping requires trust and the willingness to risk not staying safe.
So don’t just think of Leap Year as one day, think of it as an entire year to have the opportuntiy to make the Leap to what you want.
If you have made a Leap please share what it took and the lessons you learned from Leaping to what you wanted.
Here’s to taking Action
Still celebrating National Self Esteem Month. This week I want to discuss something many people may not realize. How much money you have is tied to your self confidence and self esteem. You can only earn what you believe you deserve. Ooooh, that might not feel so good but it is good to realize this so that you can do something about it. Awareness as they say is the first step. When you begin to value yourself you will begin to accept that you deserve more, and that includes money.
The following is an article I wrote on valuing yourself, knowing the importance of what you have to offer and appreciating what you know.
Knowing where to tap is priceless
All of us have a wealth of knowledge accumulated over a lifetime. The knowledge you have gained over years is priceless. Unfortunately, many people I talk to don’t know or understand the value of what they know. They assume that if they know something it isn’t that big a deal and everyone must know. Not true! Everyone knows what they know based on their own personal experiences, background and education. What you know is unique to you. Your knowledge, experience and wisdom are valuable and should be valued.
There is a great story that illustrates the value of knowledge. The story goes that NASA was having trouble with one of their spacecraft. The engine would not start. As a last resort they called in an expert. The expert examined the situation, went to his toolbox, and then walked over to the side of the engine and tapped it with a hammer. He told them to start the ignition again and it started right up. A few days later the commander received a bill from the expert for $100,000.00. He was enraged since the only thing the expert did was tap on the side of the engine. He sent the bill back to the expert and demanded he revise it. The expert revised the bill and sent it back. The commander opened the bill and it stated, “Tapping on the side of the engine – $1.00, knowing where to tap – $99,999.00.”
Knowing what to do is as important, if not more so, than doing it. Knowledge is extremely valuable. So often I see people underselling themselves because they lack the confidence in what they know and that they are worth receiving fair compensation for it. One guru on pricing said you should charge what you can say without stuttering.
It is impossible to earn or charge more than you think you are worth. What you are paid has a lot to do with self-confidence and self esteem. Work on building your confidence in what you know and what that knowledge is worth. Once you become very clear on the value of what you know, you will exude that confidence and asking for what your worth won’t be an issue.
I am not suggesting you go out and quit your job tomorrow, however you might think about asking for a raise, raising your rates if you are self employed or even consider sending out a few resumes. Recently my step-son called me because he had a delema. He had sent out four resumes just to test the market and see if anyone would want him. He got four job offers. He wasn’t sure what to do? Hmmmm, I told him he needed to send out a few more resumes because he obviously has something to offer that others want!
Here’s to taking action,
As we continue to celebrate National Self Esteem month lets examine one very important aspect of self esteem. The self fulfilling prophecy. What you believe about yourself, your future and your abilities is what will come true. Your beliefs about yourself predict how your life will be. You Are a Self-fulfilling Prophecy.
Henry Ford said, “Whether you believe you can or believe you can’t, you’re right.” Whatever you believe is a self-fulfilling prophecy. The concept of a self-fulfilling prophecy has been studied and theorized about throughout the ages. The concept is that what is believed to be true is more important than what is true, and people will go to great lengths to prove that what they thought would happen did occur. The world becomes our mirror and reflects back to us what we expect to see.
The danger with a self-fulfilling prophecy is that a person can believe something into reality. In other words, something that isn’t necessarily true can come true as a result of the belief. According to Robert K. Merton, the 20th century sociologist who coined the term, “This specious validity of the self-fulfilling prophecy perpetuates a reign of error.” The error comes in because the prophecy only happened because it was believed it would happen. For the most part, a self-fulfilling prophecy is typically thought of as something negative, but it doesn’t have to be negative. You can use the same concept to create good things in your life that have positive outcomes. That way instead of a “reign of error” you will create a “reign of success.”
I have always been curious whether predictions come true because they were true, or if people believed them to be true and thus acted accordingly. If, as the theory states, a self-fulfilling prophecy comes true because one believes it will, you can use this to your advantage. In other words, create a self-fulfilling prophecy that is positive, such as “I will succeed.” Take what Ford said and believe that you can and you will create a positive, self-fulfilling prophecy.
A self-fulfilling prophecy can set you up for either failure or success. It all depends on what you think and believe will happen. The world will reflect back to you what you believe, so believe in the best possible end result and your chances of receiving it are greatly increased.
I would love to hear how you thought your way into a positive outcome. Leave your post on the blog.
Happy Self Esteem Month
Here’s to taking action,
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Today is the day of lovers and one very important type of love is self-love. I am not talking about being selfish and self-absorbed. I am talking about self-respect, self care and loving yourself enough to be your own best Valentine. When you love yourself, you are able to love others and allow others to love you back. Today is a great day to show how much you appreciate you.
If you would like to receive flowers, candy or a gift, then send yourself flowers, buy yourself a gift or buy some delicious candy. If someone else buys you a gift, that will just be icing on the cake. Treat yourself to a special coffee in the morning or go to your favorite restaurant for lunch or dinner. Perhaps schedule a special spa treatment for later in the week or leave work early and indulge in a special treat. Whatever makes you feel special and loved is what you should do today. In addition, be open to the love and appreciation you receive from others. Loving yourself allows you to receive the love and affection others have to offer.
Don’t wait for someone to make your day. Make your own day by showering yourself with love and appreciation. Whatever will make this day special for you is what you should do. I have been known to send myself flowers, buy myself a box of Godiva chocolate or spend time at the spa. It isn’t about being selfish; it is about self-love and care. The more you love and care for yourself, the more you can love and care for others.
Have a wonderful Valentine’s Day. If you would like to know a little about the history of Valentine’s Day and get some gift ideas visit the post I made on the blog last year for some great ideas.
Here’s to taking action
I am continuing to celebrate Self Esteem month. This week I want to share with you the art of being confident and showing it. I grew up being told not to blow my own horn and not show off! Actually being confident isn’t showing off. Couldn’t be further from it. When you are confident you don’t have to show off, you simply show up and be your best self.
A great book to read this month to help you with your self confidence is “Brag – The art of tooting your own horn without blowing it.” by Peggy Klaus. It is a great book that will help you build your self confidence without feeling self conscious about it. Christen and I interviewed Peggy on our radio show Live the Day. Peggy shared tips and techniques for how to be a better bragger. If you would like to hear the show visit Live the Day Radio and click on “listen to Peggy’s show.”
Here is an article I wrote several years ago about self confidence and why it is so important to your self esteem.
Be Confident And Show It
When I was younger, I was told not to brag, toot my own horn, or show off. Many times, what I was doing was not showing off, I was showing confidence. Since many people are uncomfortable with others being confident, they confuse showing confidence with showing off.
Showing confidence is about being self-assured and proud of your accomplishments and yourself. Confidence builds your self-esteem and allows you to be your best. When you are confident, you actually are more open and secure and more supportive of others. When you are confident, you are not threatened by someone else’s success because you know that it does not diminish your own.
There have been times when I wasn’t showing confidence and indeed I was showing off. My experience of showing off is that it usually backfires. I actually became less confident. I was so busy trying to prove myself that I actually looked worse, not better. When you have to prove yourself and show off, there is usually a price to pay. Showing off is a demonstration of lack of confidence. You simply are trying too hard. When you are confident, you don’t have to try to impress others.
Someone who lacks confidence is usually boastful and arrogant. They can come across as being a bully and have little regard for others. A person who lacks confidence also feels the need to put others down so they can feel better about themselves. The problem with this is it is a short-term fix and the person who lacks confidence will soon have to find another victim in order to make them feel good about themselves again. This is a never-ending cycle for the person who lacks confidence.
For the confident and self-assured person, they do not have to prove anything. Since they feel good about themselves and are confident in their own abilities, they don’t need to put others down or act superior. In fact, that type of behavior would not even occur to someone who is confident. They understand that by building others up everyone does better.
When you have to show off it usually means you are feeling insecure and lack confidence. When you have high self-esteem, your confidence level soars and you no longer have to prove anything to anyone. You are good at what you do, you know it and it shows. We don’t have to try to convince anyone of how good you are. It simply comes across in your actions and demeanor.
“Confidence comes from hours and days and weeks and years of constant work and dedication.” Roger Staubach
“If you have no confidence in self you are twice defeated in the race of life. With confidence you have won even before you have started.” Marcus Garvey
“It is courage based on confidence, not daring, and it is confidence based on experience.” Jonas Salk
“People die of fright and live of confidence.” Henry David Thoreau
Celebrate Self Esteem month by building your confidence.
Here’s to taking action,
The month of February is National Self Esteem Month. Self Esteem is important to our mental and physical health. I found a great article on Exploring Womanhood by Kim Green-Spangler that gives great tips on how to increase your self esteem.
So much can and does effect your self esteem. Entire books have been written about how to boost and maintain self esteem. What I wanted to share today is something I think is so important to maintaining a healthy dose of self esteem and that is to take credit for the things you have done, accomplished, your skills and your strengths. Accepting compliments and acknowledgment for your achievements is a great way to increase your self esteem. For many this isn’t an easy thing to do, but practice will help you get better at it.
How many times have people thanked you for helping them, or you have been recognized for a job well done and your first response was “Oh, it was nothing.” Too often we don’t appreciate or accept the contribution we made. We believe that what we did wasn’t all that special because we did it. That simply isn’t true. We all have gifts and talents to share and they make a difference.
Learn to accept compliments, praise, and recognition. This isn’t about having a big ego. This is about developing positive self-esteem. When we are able to let in the good words of others, our confidence and self-esteem are boosted. Notice I didn’t say created, because without having positive self-esteem in the first place it would be difficult to hear the good words of others. We would automatically deflect them. We need to develop our own positive self esteem by first recognizing that we are worthwhile and what we contribute is worthwhile. For some, this takes practice. Once we build our own self-esteem, the compliments from others just add to our good feelings toward ourselves. It is the icing on the cake.
When receiving compliments, recognition, and praise, practice saying, “Thank you.” You don’t have to say anything else. In fact, resist the urge to say anything else. This might take practice for some, and that is okay. If you were taught to be modest about your contributions, then it will be challenging to accept appreciation. And if you haven’t received much appreciation for your contributions, it also will be challenging.
If you don’t receive a lot of compliments, recognition and praise, ask for it. I know this sounds odd and might be difficult to do at first, but it is important. First, it is for you to be appreciated for your contributions. And yes it does count if you ask for it. Secondly, it is to train others to show appreciation. Many of us don’t know how to demonstrate our appreciation because we haven’t received much for ourselves. Let the person know what you are looking for and how they can show their appreciation. It might be as simple as telling your children you want them to tell you how good dinner was, to asking your boss to say thank you when you have accomplished a project. This will feel awkward at first, but the feeling that the recognition will bring will be worth it.
Happy National Self Esteem Month
Here’s to taking action,