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Give someone a Compliment


January 28th is National Compliment Day or it might be January 24th. I found conflicting information on the Internet however I figure what does it really matter. You don’t need a day to know that compliments are appreciated any day and at anytime. I suggest you make every day compliment day and practice giving compliments to everyone you come in contact with. You can always find something nice to say and when you are focused on finding something nice to say it becomes easier.

I love to give compliments and look for every chance I can find. I compliment strangers on what they are wearing, how helpful they have been and how friendly they are. I don’t think it matters as much what you compliment someone on as long as you compliment. As the saying goes, “People won’t remember what you say as much as they will remember how you made them feel.” If you make it a habit to compliment people you will always be remembered as someone that spreads good feelings and joy wherever they go.

I was in Office Max the other day getting my 365 Days of Coaching Daily Action Success Packs printed. The young man at the print center was so helpful that I couldn’t resist giving him a compliment. However I didn’t give it directly to him, I gave it to his manager that was sitting at a computer close by. After I told the manager how wonderful the young man was I turned and looked at the young man. He was beaming from ear to ear. People love compliments and they love it even more when others are involved. Anytime you have a chance to compliment someone in public or tell their parents, boss, spouse or friends how wonderful they are do it. It just makes the compliment that much sweeter.

So even if today isn’t the “official” compliment day find someone to compliment. It will make both of you feel great.


Happy Birthday To Me


I celebrated my birthday last week and what a blast. I truly believe in celebrating birthdays. I consider birthdays to be one of the most important holidays of the year. Really, how often do you get a day dedicated to you?

In the past I have even celebrated an entire month in which I called “My Birthday Day Month.” This year I celebrated the eve of the eve of my birthday, my birthday eve, the actual day and my birthday weekend. Birthday’s only come once a year, you might as well get as much as you can from them.

I have included a few pictures from my party. Just kept it low key this year. Had several of my best-friends meet me at my favorite restaurant, Sweet Tomatoes. I felt really bad for the people sitting right behind us as I think they were trying to have a quiet romantic lunch and we were anything but quiet! I gave the woman of the couple a party bag for having to deal with us during lunch.

I did fix party bags for all my guest and they were a big hit. Again why not spurge when it is your birthday and have fun with it. I filled the bags will my favorite things and some silly stuff as well like a lip gloss ring and glitter puddy!

I got so many nice gifts. All my friends were very generous and creative with their gifts. My sister gave me a gift that was very special. I have a tradition that when it is someones special birthday (and I decide what makes it special) I give them as many gifts as they are old. I have done this with my nephew for years, which actually was pretty easy when he was in the single digits. Gets a little more challenging when the person is older. My sister had a challenge as she needed to wrap (wrapping all the gifts is essential – it makes it really fun to open that many gifts) 48 gifts. They were all really nice gifts and it was so much fun opening all the presents. I was really surprised and I will admit a bit overwhelmed.

I actually thought that giving a gift for each year a person was old was a family tradition although I couldn’t remember who started it. My sister says she never remembers anyone in my family doing this except me. So I am not sure where I got the idea but every time I give the present/age gift the receiver loves it.

Start thinking about what you would like to do for your birthday this year. You can keep it simple or be very extravagant. It doesn’t matter what you do as long as you celebrate the day.

Here’s to taking action


Who would you give a kidney to?


I recently wrote a Day that ask the question, “Who would you give a kidney to?” The question was inspired by my friend Nan whose husband recently had a kidney transplant. The kidney came from Nan’s husband’s best friend. I was so inspired by the story that I thought I would share it with you.


Mooresville resident Richard Davis found out in May that his kidneys were failing.

He had two options: undergo dialysis or seek a kidney transplant. He turned to his family and friends for support. His wife, Nan Davis, e-mailed about 100 friends and relatives to let them know.

“We weren’t expecting anybody to step up,” she said.

But nine people offered to be tested to see whether they could be a donor, including his brother Bob Davis. His blood type wasn’t a match.

Then he found hope from a lifelong friend.

Davis and Joe Eckhout have been best friends since the second grade. They grew up two blocks from each other in Livonia, Mich., a suburb of Detroit.

In 1976, Davis moved away, eventually settling in Mooresville. But they’ve stayed in touch through weekly phone calls and occasional visits.

“He’s just like my brother,” Eckhout said. “He’s always been there if I ever needed him and vice versa. It’s always been a real close relationship.”

Davis suffers from polycystic kidney disease, a genetic condition that afflicts more than 600,000 Americans, said Jennifer Robinson, a spokeswoman for the PKD Foundation.

There is no cure. The disease forms cysts on the kidneys and eventually overtakes the tissues and leads to kidney failure, she said.

Davis, 53, who has four adult children, was diagnosed with the condition 11 years ago. He tried to stay healthy through diet, exercise and controlling his blood pressure.

His father, who had the same condition, battled the disease for nine years, with grueling dialysis treatment three to four times a week.

Davis said he wanted to avoid dialysis. Davis’ two sisters also have the same disease.

After Davis’ brother was ruled out as a donor, Eckhout contacted his friend.

He said he’d be a donor.

In November, tests results showed that Eckhout was a match. They had surgery Dec. 12 at Carolinas Medical Center.

“You don’t get too many chances in life to make an impact on someone’s life as much as that,” said 54-year-old Eckhout during a phone interview from Northville, Mich. “This was a huge thing for me to do for my best buddy.”

After four hours of surgery and a few weeks of recovery, Davis said, he’s overjoyed with the success of his operation. His friend’s gift has only strengthened their bond, he said.

“It’s really hard to put into words,” he said, “how you feel about a person that would make this sacrifice.”


Lena Warmack: 704-987-3670, ext. 14.

Polycystic Kidney Disease facts

One in 500 Americans has polycystic kidney disease. Symptoms can include high blood pressure, blood in urine, lower back pain and loss of appetite.

Carolinas Medical Center in Charlotte performed 138 kidney transplants last year. About 330 people are on the hospital’s wait list for kidney transplants.

More than 2,000 people are on a wait list for kidney transplants in North Carolina.

78,400 people nationwide are on a wait list for kidney transplants.

Doctors prefer to use the donor’s left kidney for transplants because the vessels are longer and easier to operate on during the four-hour procedure.

To find out more

For details on the kidney transplant program and how you can become a donor, call Tania Feemster, a transplant coordinator at CMC Charlotte: 1-800-562-5752. Also visit: the PKD Foundation: and United Network for Organ Sharing:

No excuse is a good excuse


No excuse is a good excuse and if you are going to use an excuse it actually doesn’t matter what it is. Since excuses are simply lies you tell yourself any excuse will do. One of my long time subscribers sent me a link to a Niki Ad that is amazing. I watched it four times. You have to see this, and after you do, you won’t have any excuses! Just do it!

Here’s to taking action


Resources to help you make the New Year Great!


I have been writing a lot about Goal Setting in 365 Days of Coaching ( The New Year just seems like a great time to set new goals and create a new start. There is really nothing magical about the New Year it just seems like a great time to begin anew.

I have been doing lots of research for all my goal setting Days so I thought I would share some of the great resources I have found on goal setting and how to make sure you reach the goals you set. In addition I am sharing some of the sites that will help you not only reach your goals but will also assist you in having a wonderful life. That really should be a goal anyway, right?


Goal Setting Guide – 77 Goals Setting Tips for Success In Life

Single Step provides an overview of goal setting using the SMART goal process. There is also a free goal setting worksheet that you can download. is a fun website where you set a goal, decide on a reward if you make the goal and donate to charity if you don’t make the goal. You can hook up with Betcha buddies to help you succeed and there are tools on the site to help you with your goals. The process is free.

The website Happy For No reason, same name as the book Marci Shimoff wrote, will help you have a Happier Year. Sign up for Marci’s newsletter and receive tips and secrets on how to be happy for no reason. I also highly recommend the book, Happy for no reason. It would be a good one to add to your collection this year.

What would the New Year be like without passion. Visit the Passion Test website and take the Passion Test Profile.

TUT’s Adventure Club – This is home of Mike Dooley and Notes from the Universe. Notes from the Universe is an e-zine that is delivered five days a week and brings amazing wisdom and insight. It is one of my favorites and I read it almost every day. It helps keep me stay focused and on track and reminds me of what I am really here for.

Hungry Girl is one of the best sites and e-zines on the Internet (my humble opinion). If eating healthier this year is a goal you must sign up for the Hungry Girl e-zine. It is funny, informative and packed with lots of ideas about how to eat good food that is good for you.

Here’s to taking action,


Know Your Goal, Make A Plan, Take Action

Know Your Goal, Make A Plan, Take Action

I have come to the conclusion that in order to create something new in our lives there are three necessary steps. The first one is to determine what we want. We must have something in mind that is compelling and inspiring. Once we know what we want, we must develop a plan of action. Not having a plan is like taking a road trip without a map. We might eventually get to our destination, but it will take us more time and effort. The same is true of goals. Without a plan, we will founder around and waste a lot of time and energy. And the final and most important step is to take action.

Taking action is the only way we are going to create our goals into reality. Taking action seems, for many, to be the hardest step. If you are not sure what to do to get started, that is fine. Just do something. The first step is the hardest. Often the path will unfold in front of us and reveal itself, but only after we make the first move. When we take action, we create a forward motion. We do not need to know exactly how everything will unfold. Often there is no way to know. We just need to keep putting one foot in front of the other and be willing to do what it takes to create our goals. Staying committed to being in action and not stopping until you reach your goal is the secret to creating what you want.


The secret to success requires a clear goal, a plan, and action. Having a goal without a plan is not really a goal; it is a dream. Taking action without having a plan is like following your dream in the dark. You might eventually get there, but it will take twice as much time and energy. Having a goal and a plan without acting will not support you in achieving anything. What you will end up with is a wish that you had, not the joy of having done it.

Do you have a goal you would like to achieve? What is your plan? Are you ready to take the actions necessary to make your goal a reality?

Daily Success Formula

Goal + Plan + Action = Success


“Your mind, while blessed with permanent memory, is cursed with lousy recall. Written goals provide clarity. By documenting your dreams, you must think about the process of achieving them.” Gary Ryan Blair

“You are not likely to get anywhere in particular if you don’t know where you want to go.” Percy H. Johnson

“What you get by achieving your goals is as important as what you become by achieving your goals.” Zig Zigler

Happy For No Reason


Would you like to be happier? Every day for the rest of your life?

My mentor Marci Shimoff has cracked the code on happiness. In her new book “Happy For No Reason” Marci will show you how to crack the code and be happy every day no matter what is going on in your life. Since working with Marci and applying just a few of her strategies my happiness set point has skyrocketed, and I was already a pretty happy person.

Please read the letter below for what Jack Canfield calls the “definitive, broad-based approach to becoming truly happy.” I love Marci’s new book, “Happy For No Reason” and I trust you will too.

Here’s to taking action now,


Dear Friend:

I nearly drove into the ditch when I heard on the radio that people who are happy earn $750,000+ more in their lifetime than others. That’s a lot — 3/4 of a million.

More than 255 studies show that money doesn’t buy happiness. Studies say it is the other way around: Happiness buys money.

The radio didn’t even address the fact that happy people are more fulfilled, relaxed, and peaceful. …that they naturally get lower prices, more opportunities, better care, more friends, greater intimacy, and so on.

You might think, “I would be happy too if I had more intimacy (or that car, that raise, that home…),” but it is the other way around. If you’re happy first, everything will come. High wages. Great relationships. Better sex. Career advancements. Customers. Great deals. Contentment in your home. All naturally, with little effort, which will make you happier still. “Happiness runs in a circular motion.”

A dear friend just released a fabulous new book, “Happy for No Reason,” that’s already getting huge acclaim. This is a breakthrough book — not a Pollyannaish book — that shows you how to raise your baseline of happiness.

This means that no matter what happens at work — no matter what stress plows into you — no matter how dire the circumstances — you will AUTOMATICALLY return to a higher level of happiness than you have today. Imagine, you don’t have to get richer, thinner, or smarter to be happier.

That’s huge. That’s why after I read the first chapter, I exclaimed, “Holy cow! This will change the world.”

This book should be on every desk… in every office… every school… every nightstand. It should be in the hands of everyone you know.

You see… author Marci Shimoff has broken the code on happiness. All we’ve ever really wanted in life is to be happy. And Marci’s book shows you how. She gives you a clear, 7-step program that’s effective and fast. It works from the inside, out.

I’m so convinced that you should read this book, I’m going to give you additional resources to make sure you raise your happiness set-point and not just read about it.

Buy “Happy for No Reason” today and you will receive:

* “Action Plan for Happiness” recording by Marci and personal development expert Paul Scheele

* “Turn Happiness into Money” recording by Marci and CNBC wealth expert Phil Town

* “Vaporize Unhappiness” recording by Sedona Method expert Hale Dwoskin

* A 3-minute Visiliminal that you can play on your computer to rewire your brain for more happiness

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This is more than a book
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It’s a full audio course for the price of a book. You also receive:

* “Laughing Your Way to Happiness” recording with Marci and comedian Yakov Smirnoff

* “Feng Shui for Happiness & Prosperity” recording by Feng Shui Master Marie Diamond

* “Happiness in Business” recording with Marci and “Success Built To Last” author Stewart Emery

* “Happiness Meditation” with Spring Forest Qigong Master Chunyi Lin

and to make you still more happy…

* More than two dozen top authors and thought leaders will give you recordings that support you having a wonderful, happy-filled life of abundance and peace. (These alone are valued at more than $3000!)

Through these additional resources, you will understand how to be happier from so many perspectives that it would be nearly impossible for you not to radically improve your life by raising your baseline for happiness.

Order your book right now by going to:

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Happiness is “The Secret”
to the Law of Attraction
* * *

Rhonda Byrne, creator of “The Secret” wrote…

“I want to let you in on a secret to ‘The Secret.’ The shortcut to anything you want in your life is to BE and FEEL happy now! It is the fastest way to bring money and anything else you want into your life.”

You may have seen Marci Shimoff in “The Secret” movie. Marci is an undisputed expert on the Law of Attraction.

Like Rhonda, she knows that Happiness is a powerful attractor. She knows — and she teaches you in the book and on the free recordings — that happiness helps draw to you whatever you want.

That’s how she became a #1 New York Times best-selling author. People have purchased more than 13 million copies of her books. That is extraordinary considering that most books never sell more than 2500 copies. She is a mega successful author who knows that happiness is the secret to life.

And she knows how to help anyone — YOU! — quickly become happier, and remain happy for the rest of your life. And that’s what you get in her book and in the special bonus recordings that you will receive right now when you order her book.

Why was Marci on NBC’s “The Today Show” this week? Because as one magazine just declared, “Happiness is the newest fashion.” People are finally figuring out that it isn’t the new flat screen TV, or the iPhone, or the new wardrobe that makes you happy.

It’s the old chicken/egg thing. And happiness definitely came first. Marci figured out how to get happiness to naturally bubble up from within, which is why the national media is clamoring to get her attention. She figured out that to be happier all you need is your brain — and simple instructions on how to use it. And, you should, because…

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Unhappiness brings early death
* * *

Research shows that unhappy people:

* Are 65% more likely to get a cold

* Have a greater risk of heart disease, strokes, hypertension, infections, and Type 2 diabetes

* Release more of the stress hormone cortisol. They have a higher heart rate and may be at higher risk for heart attacks

* Are less likely to find a spouse

* Live nine years fewer than their happy counterparts

So… when you are happy, you are likely to live longer. You are more emotionally healthy, physically healthy, creative, energetic, comp
assionate, and successful!

…..In Marci’s book you will
…..take a test of 20 questions
… determine your level of happiness

You’ll then be given a practical 7-step strategy to increase your level of happiness and decrease the risks.

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Beware of this advice:
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“Find the things that make you happy and do more of those.”

That sounds good, but it’s a trap!

Your life would quickly get out of balance if you get in a horrible accident… if you end up between jobs… breaking up or getting a divorce… in a financial crisis… flattened out by sickness…

You want to automatically generate happiness all of the time. You don’t want to rely on anything else for your happiness. Not achievements, goals, money, relationships, a new car, fancy clothes, other people, or anything else “out there.”

You learn how in Marci’s book. It’s beautiful, simple, and practical. And with the recordings you’ll get an action plan for happiness, you’ll learn how to turn happiness into money, and you’ll vaporize any last remnants of unhappiness.

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How to beat your genetics
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Believe it or not, happiness is 50% genetics. That’s why some people are just happy-go-lucky with everything turning up roses. That’s also why some people just seem to be rich automatically, without trying.

But that’s not the whole story. 50% of your happiness level is NOT genetics. The other 50% can be controlled by you! In the same way that you can crank the thermostat to warm up on chilly days, you can reprogram your happiness “set-point” to a higher level of peace and well-being.

This happiness set-point is the level of happiness that you maintain most of your life. If you are unhappy now, you will likely be unhappy 10 years from now… unless you do something to change it.

In her book Marci gives you a 7-step practical program to raise your happiness set-point quickly, easily, and with little effort… so that you will be happier and happier (and richer and richer!).

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The Happy 100
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Marci interviewed 100 unconditionally happy people. She combined the interviews with cutting-edge research and knowledge from the world’s leading experts in the fields of positive psychology and neurophysiology.

From that she developed the powerful, proven 7-step program that you can incorporate into your life to be happier right now — no matter where you start.

You’ll discover profound first-person stories of people who’ve applied these steps to their own lives to become Happy for No Reason.

You’ll read phenomenal tales from a former drug-dealer turned minister, a hit film-maker, a political refugee, and a famous actress who escaped a “family curse,” as well as stories from doctors, nurses, mothers, teachers and business executives.

You’ll learn practical, down-to-earth strategies based on the new science of happiness that will help you experience happiness “from the inside out.”

You don’t have to have happy genes, win the lottery, lose 20 pounds, or become a saint. By the time you finish reading Marci’s book, you will know how to experience an authentic state of sustained happiness for the rest of your life.

Add the bonus recordings and you have an unbelievable course in happiness that will put you on a course of miracles in your life. For less than $25!

We’ll even give you a recording of the top highlights from Marci’s interviews with the Happy 100!

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Are you ready to be happier?
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I know that if you have read to the end of this letter you are quite likely to buy Marci’s book and receive the bonus resources and gifts. I shudder to think about the unfortunate few who will just go on with their day and not order the book now.

I am absolutely convinced of the power within this book. I hope my passion, sincerity, and conviction comes through in this letter. I hope you grab this opportunity to add so many riches in your life — for so few dollars right now.

Take that step, and order your own personal copy of Marci Shimoff’s “Happy for No Reason.” And come back within 14 days to claim your bonus recordings.

Be sure to thank whoever may have forwarded this email to you. And do write Marci and me about your experiences with “Happy for No Reason.”

For Your Personal Happiness,

Pete Bissonette
President of Learning Strategies
Eager student of Marci Shimoff
Great fan of the treasure of “Happy for No Reason”

P.S. – Here are reviews from 21 people you may recognize:


“With Happy for No Reason, Marci Shimoff has hit a home run. This book presents a definitive, broad-based approach to becoming truly happy that combines great spiritual depth, top-notch research, and psychological practicality. I’m certain that if you follow the practices in her dazzling new book, you too will manifest a lifetime of happiness.”

— From the foreword by Jack Canfield, author of The Success Principles and co-creator of the #1 New York Times bestselling Chicken Soup for the Soul series


“You can’t depend on external circumstances for lasting happiness. It has to come from inside you. Based on scientific research and the experiences of truly happy people, Happy for No Reason shows you step-by-step how to raise your happiness set-point.”

— Mehmet C. Oz MD, coauthor of You: on a Diet and You: Staying Young


“Marci Shimoff is one of the most compelling people I’ve ever known. I’m happy she’s shared her wisdom with all of us in Happy for No Reason.”

— Marianne Williamson, #1 New York Times bestselling author of A Return to Love


“Happy for No Reason offers seven clear, powerful and effective steps you can practice to be happier right now!”

— John Gray, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus


“This book is a wonderful collection of techniques and examples, shared by people who have had one of the most important realizations I think we can have — that we already have within us the ability to live in a state of Happy for No Reason.”

— Lindsay Wagner, “The Bionic Woman,” Emmy Award-winning actress


“Tremendous! Marci Shimoff has produced a book that is practical, inspiring, and accessible. Happy for No Reason gives readers powerful ways to become happier in all dimensions of life: body, mind, heart, soul, personal power, purpose, and relationships. It’s seven books holistically rolled into one.”

— Stephen M. R. Covey, bestselling Author of The Speed of Trust: The One Thing That Changes Everything


“I love this practical approach to true happiness. The real-life stories of people who are Happy for No Reason are extraordinarily moving and inspiring — just reading this book made me happier!”

— Olivia Hussey, Golden Globe Award-winning Actress


“If you want
to be happy (and who doesn’t?) Marci Shimoff has — amazingly — “cracked the code” for doing so. This isn’t the latest pop-psychology craze. Instead, it’s based on the latest scientific research about real and lasting happiness. What if you (or your loved ones) really could be happy, regardless, of circumstances? Happy for No Reason shows you how–and it’s easier than you think. This remarkable book is sure to change a lot of lives, including yours.”

— Bill Harris, Director of Centerpointe Research Institute


“Happy for No Reason offers an engaging, wise and profound look at happiness that can change your life. Marci Shimoff has creatively crafted a purposeful guide to assist us in experiencing the gift of happiness.”

— Chaka Khan, Grammy Award-winning Singer & Songwriter, Author, and Philanthropist


“Rule #1 for happiness: READ THIS BOOK! Be happy for no reason, because everything else comes from that. If you want health, wealth and wisdom, follow the Happiness Habits presented in these pages and transform your life.”

— Phil Town, #1 New York Times bestselling Author of Rule #1, Host of CNBC show, Rebel Investor


“In Happy for No Reason, Marci Shimoff shares a new paradigm of happiness, rooted in ancient wisdom, yet validated by cutting-edge research in the fields of both neuroscience and positive psychology. I was enthralled the whole way through.”

— Candace B. Pert, PhD, Scientific Director RAPID Pharmaceuticals, featured in the film What the Bleep Do We Know!? and Author of Everything You Need to Know to Feel Go(o)d


“Happy for No Reason is the most important book about happiness you’ll ever read! A completely unique and life-changing approach to being happy no matter what.”

— Raymond Aaron, Canada’s #1 Business and Investment Coach


“Marci Shimoff has opened a new era of inner peace for humanity with her brilliant work. The search for happiness now starts and ends inside us as we raise our happiness set-point using her insightful guidance. As an educator, I’m most impressed at how Marci presents a complex topic in an easy-to-read and easy-to-share book. I recommend it happily!”

— Paul R. Scheele, Co-founder, Learning Strategies Corporation, Author, Natural Brilliance and PhotoReading


“Happy for No Reason is a wonderful guide for how to be happier as individuals, and how to share that happiness with our families, our communities and our world. Everyone will benefit from the wisdom and coaching that this valuable book offers.”

— Dr. Bill and Kathy Magee, CEO and President, Co-founders of Operation Smile


“Happy for No Reason offers a practical and hopeful solution to fear, depression, anxiety, and stress. Here’s the secret: Each of us has the ability to focus on joy and happiness –regardless of what is going on in the world. And therein lies our power… and ability to be healthy and happy. This book is a winner.”

— Christiane Northrup, M.D., Author of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom, The Wisdom of Menopause


“Wonderful! This book provides a program that will bring you powerful results. Finding lasting happiness has never been as clear and easy.”

— Bobbi DePorter, Co-founder and President, Quantum Learning Network/SuperCamp.


“Happy for No Reason not only reports on the lofty science of happiness, but the authors also wisely remember to include stories from the lives of everyday people.”

— Robert Biswas-Diener, Program Director for Education and Learning, Center for Applied Positive Psychology (UK)


“Wealth and Success are meaningless without happiness! Happy for No Reason shows you how to be happy wherever you are in life.”

— Dr. Ivan Misner, Chairman and Founder of BNI (Business Networks International)


“Happy for No Reason is THE premier book for any person wanting to experience more happiness. Keep it by your bedstand! It’s an important book to show you how you can be happy every day.”

— Jill Lublin, International Speaker and bestselling Author of Guerrilla Publicity, Networking Magic and Get Noticed


“This book will change the way you think about happiness. In Happy for No Reason, Marci Shimoff has plenty of reasons to share this wisdom. If you want more joy, peace and well-being in life, this book is for you.”

–Yakov Smirnoff, MAPP (Master of Applied Positive Psychology) and Comedian


“If you are looking for a book to profoundly and positively uplift your life in the most glorious of ways, you will find it in Happy for No Reason. It’s captivating, eye-opening, and life-changing.”
Peggy McColl, New York Times bestselling Author of Your Destiny Switch

P.P.S. – Truth is emerging: Being happy IS how to have it all. It used to be that if we couldn’t have it all, we would at least want happiness. We now know that if you have happiness, everything else can flow to you. Order Marci’s new book today, and then claim the special bonuses and resources.



One of the most important things you can do to create success in life is to decide. Decide what it is you want, make a commitment to achieve it and go for it. One of my former clients credits me with assisting her in achieving her goals by giving her the simple advice to simply decide. I have found this to be one of the most powerful things I have used in my life. The power of deciding what you want will move mountains and manifest goals.

And Jack Canfield agrees with me. I thought I would share his newsletter from this week on Deciding what you want.

Decide What You Want
by Jack Canfield

In order to get what you want, you must first decide what you want. Most people really foul up at this crucial first step because they simply can’t see how it’s possible to get what they want — so they don’t even let themselves want it.

Don’t sabotage yourself that way!

What scientists now know about how the brain works is that you must first decide WHAT you want, before your brain can figure out HOW to get it. Once you lock-in your desires, your mind and the universe can step in.

Are you ready to get started?

Be Willing to Dream BIG Dreams
As soon as you commit to a big dream and really go after it, your subconscious creative mind will come up with big ideas to make it happen. You’ll start attracting the people, resources, and opportunities you need into your life to make your dream come true. Big dreams not only inspire you, they compel others to want to play big, too.

Set Goals That Will Stretch You
Another value in giving yourself permission to go after the big dreams is that big dreams require you to grow in order to achieve them. In fact, in the long run, that is the greatest benefit you will receive from pursuing your dreams — not so much the outer trappings of fulfilling the dream (an expensive car, impressive house, loads of money and philanthropic opportunities), but who you become in the process.

As I’ve seen many times over, the outer symbols of success can all be easily lost. Houses burn down, companies go bankrupt, relationships end, cars get old, bodies age and fame wanes, but who you are, what you have learned, and the new skills you have developed never go away. These are the true prizes of success. Motivational philosopher, Jim Rohn advises that “You should set a goal big enough that in the process of achieving it, you become someone worth becoming.”

Service to Others
Something else you’ll discover is that when your dreams include service to others — accomplishing something that contributes to others — it also accelerates the accomplishment of that goal. People want to be part of something that contributes and makes a difference.

Turn Your Dreams into Goals and Objectives
Once you are clear about what you want, you must turn each item into a measurable objective. By measurable, I mean measurable in space and time — how much and by when. For instance, if you were to tell me that you wanted more money, I might pull out a dollar and give it to you, but you would probably protest, saying “No, I meant a lot more money — like $20,000!” Well, how am I supposed to know unless you tell me? Similarly, your boss, your friends, your spouse, your brain — God, the Universe — can’t figure out what you want unless you tell them specifically what it is. What do you want — exactly — and when do you want it by?

Write Your Goals Down
Write your goals down in detail, and read your list of goals every day. This will keep your subconscious mind focused on what you want. For an even more powerful approach, close your eyes and focus on each goal and ask yourself, “What is one thing I could do today to move toward the achievement of this goal?” Write down your answers and take those actions.

I recommend writing down a minimum of 3 goals in each of the following 7 areas:

1. Financial Goals
2. Career/Business Goals
3. Free Time/Family Time
4. Health/Appearance Goals
5. Relationship Goals
6. Personal Growth
7. Making a Difference

To help your reticular activating system begin finding YOUR wants in unexpected places, take time now to decide what you want and start writing!

If you want help getting started, I have a handy worksheet for you that models this formula, including examples. Click here to download this resource and start creating all that you want from your life this year.

Remember, don’t hold back!

© 2008 Jack Canfield

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Blocks to success in 2008


My dear friend and colleague Karen VanCleve wrote a great article in her ezine, The Spark, this month. It might help you figure out what is getting in the way of keeping those resolutions.

Avoid the Four Biggest Blocks To Your Success In 2008

Are you a “resolutionist?” My definition of a “resolutionist” is someone who sets resolutions for the new year and begins in a burst of energy and enthusiasm, but then fades by February. Or maybe after too many years of being a “resolutionist,” you said “why bother” and now you’ve just settled into a comfortable rut. If either of those examples describes you, here are some tips to avoid the biggest traps that get in the way of achieving any important goal. And “resolutionists,” in their zealous approach to their goals, often overlook the importance of addressing these points. So think about some outcome you would LOVE to create in 2008. What would make the year magnificent for you? In working with people as a coach over the last few years, I find that there are four key stumbling blocks that keep people from having what they want:

Block #1 – Not clearly identifying what you want in life. There’s a great line in a song, “if you don’t care where you’re going, any road will get you there.” It seems like the “easy” way to go through life: just see where you end up. But I’ve never known anyone to follow the “easy” road and end up in a wonderful, fulfilling place. If I can encourage you to do one thing it is to identify what you want – for yourself, for the people you love, for the world – and make a clear statement to yourself about that intention. What will be different in your life (and the lives of others) when you make that intention happen? Imagine that it’s the end of 2008 and you have accomplished what you wanted – how would you feel? Write all of your ideas down in as much detail as possible. Read it often throughout the year to keep that passion alive.

Block #2. Not identifying the path, even just the major milestones, that lead to the ultimate destination. If you don’t know precisely how to reach that destination, just identify even the basic starting steps to get clarity. As you have more information and more clarity, you can fill in more of the path. Often people think too far down the road, and become intimidated by what they think it will take to complete the journey. Keep the steps simple, keep them in perspective, and write them down. “A journey of 1,000 miles begins with a single step.” All you really need is one step at a time.

Block #3. “Driving with the brake on.” This is a metaphor for using willpower and force to overcome skeptical self-talk and resistance to change. If you don’t believe fully that you are capable, empowered, deserving, and destined for your ultimate future, no amount of dreaming will make you take action. Focus fully on why your goal is important and what you need to do next, rather than what could go wrong and why you can’t do it. Remind yourself of your successes, your strengths and talents, your resilience. If you focus on past failures, you’ll guaranteed to create new ones!

Block #4. Lack of an environment to take consistent action for change. New Years Resolutions are a perfect example of how NOT to pursue your dreams: use willpower to take huge action week one, some action week two, a little action week three, and put the resolution away until next year in week four. If you have an environment that supports you in taking strong, consistent action, it won’t be an exercise in willpower to keep your momentum. Create calendar entries daily for time to support your goal, keep steps 1 – 3 above in front of you, get a support team, create a compelling reward for following through and a painful penalty for not following through (Make the rewards and penalties based on your actions, so even if you’re not getting the results you want yet, you’re still experiencing “success.”). The key here is to have many environmental triggers to support you.

You are capable of amazing things! Every day in working with people I see the power of believing in yourself and believing in your goals. Look back at some of the amazing accomplishments you have already reached! Greatness is within you – sometimes it’s just hiding behind a handful of big blocks to your success.

I like that Karen outlined the four blocks to success for the New Year. I would also suggest not to make resolutions you don’t plan on keeping. If you are not making a plan and setting goals that will support achieving your resolutions, chances are you won’t make it past the first few days (maybe weeks if you are lucky). Resolutions are simply fancy goals! Don’t let them fool you. It still takes commitment, a plan and a strong desire to accomplish your goal. Resolutions don’t just happen, you make them happen.