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National Candy Corn Day


Today, October 30th, is National Candy Corn Day. Gosh if my mom had known about National Candy Corn Day she would have made it a family holiday. She was so funny about her candy. She hid it all through the house. Not sure who she was hiding it from because she was the only one that liked what we called “yucky candy.” She loved candy corn, fruit slices, peeps, lemon anything, and of course she did like chocolate but she didn’t hid that for some reason. We found bags of candy and little stashes all over the house after she died.

For Halloween I sent my sister Candy Corn cookies from a company called Dancing Deer. They are all natural (okay a little stretch there with the healthy cookies) but seem to be a little better nutritionally, and they taste good. my friend Alyson Stanfield sent my mom a box of cookies from the company when mom stayed with me for a month in 2005. She died a month later. It was great to have her with us but I tell you I have an appreciation for caregivers. It took all my time. The role reversal was the hardest part. I ended up changing my mom’s diapers and giving her a bath – not to mention trying to keep her from eating herself into a diabetic coma (although not sure why it mattered) and watching her so she wouldn’t fall. When she stayed with us my youngest Yorkie Surrobbie would not leave her side and I couldn’t figure out why she was so attached. Later I realized my mom was sharing all her goodies with her! Come to find out Surrobbie loves candy corn too!

Through my experience with my mom I realized that the difficult part about death is being left behind. The person that dies goes on to a better place (at least that is my belief) but the survivors are left behind to try and pick up the pieces. It took me a year and a half to recover from the loss of my parents (they both died in 2005 seven months apart) and the death of my dog Muffassa in December of the same year. I grossly underestimated the impact of the loss.

If you are suffering from a loss don’t try to go it alone. I was so fortunate to have loving and supportive friends and family. My sister and I talked almost every day leading up to the death of our parents and for the following year. We still talk frequently. My mom died two years ago today and we called each other just to talk about how we were feeling and to remember our mom. My sister and her family went to Outback Steakhouse in my mom’s memory. That was one of her favorite places to eat. I carved a pumpkin in her honor and had a few moments of quiet time to reflect on all the memories.

There are many support groups for grief and many great books. One of the best books I read during the process was Death and Dying by Elisabeth Kubler Ross. What I like most about this book is the concept of the Grief Process. It is amazing how accurate she has come to labeling the steps one goes through.

Another one was How We Die by Sherwin B. Nuland.

Another good book that was specific to losing one’s parents is Losing Your Parents, Finding Your Self – The Defining Turning Point of Adult Life by Victoria Secunda. A good resource for what everyone will eventually go through.

My friend Alyson Stanfield suggested I create a shrine to my mom to honor her. This is a concept that comes from the holiday The Day of the Dead celebrated by many cultures. Growing up we celebrated All Saints Day. I am going to do something that will honor my mom. For me it seems like the thing to do.

If you missed National Candy Corn Day don’t despair. October 31st is National Caramel Apple Day! So enjoy and throw in a few pieces of candy corn just for the fun of it.


A few more books off the shelf


Well I am working on my goal of reading all the books on my shelves. I have promised myself I won’t buy any new books until I have read all the ones I already have. The books I receive as gifts don’t count!

Two more books are off the shelves. I read, well I have to confess, listened to, two books on my trip to New Mexico. The trip is 444 miles one way so there is plenty of time to get in a book or two. I bought the CD’s last year but didn’t get to them because Dan Brown’s Angel’s and Demons took the entire trip. A tad too violent for me, still a book worth listening to or even reading.

The first book we listened to was Baxter Black’s Hey Cowgirl Need a Ride.” This was the book I was listening to that caused me to almost run out of gas in the middle of NoWhere New Mexico. I was so caught up in the story I forgot to check the gas gauge. Now that should tell you how good it was. Baxter says that is worth 450 miles of listening which I think he is pretty close.

The second book was by David Sedaris “Me Talk Pretty Some Day.” My husband and I had a detailed discussion as to who picked out this book on tape. I swear I had no idea who David Sedaris was and my husband swears neither did he. So the book was a surprise, delightfully so. It actually isn’t a story but short stories written by David about his life. He is hysterical. If you want to laugh out loud, this is a great book. To hear Davie read one of his stories out YouTube, he is reading one of the stories from the book, “Bend over and say ah.”

So I have been able to take a few books off the shelves, and looking forward to reading even more. Want to make room for all the new books I am lusting after.


Happy Halloween


Halloween is just a couple days away. There are lots of ways to celebrate Halloween that don’t include eating tons of sugar and dressing in a strange costume.

First, the candy thing. My trick is to treat myself to healthy snacks and buy candy that I don’t like for the trick-or-treaters. That way I am not tempted and I still get to enjoy the fun of handing out candy.

I love to invite people over for dinner on Halloween. I keep it simply, serve pumpkin soup or something simple and perhaps caramel apples for dessert. Easy and fun.

Costumes are fun. You could use this opportunity to dress up as you see yourself five years from now. Perhaps an entrepreneur, the President of your company or something else that has meaning to you. That could even be the theme of your dinner party, have everyone come dressed as they see themselves in five years.

Since Halloween is the last day of Coach Lee’s Unofficial Goals month make sure you have reviewed your goals and are set to have a strong finish for the year!


Balloon Fiesta


For the third year in a row my husband and I went down to Albuquerque, New Mexico and attended the Balloon Fiesta. It is amazing seeing hundreds of balloons take off. It isn’t all that amazing getting up at 3:30am to be on the field by 5:30am to see dawn patrol take off at 5:45am and of course at sunrise watch the rest of the balloons ascend. Naps were a must and we did indulge in one every day.

We also visited with friends and enjoyed the warm weather. We always stay at a delightful little Bed and Breakfast, Cinnamon Mornings, where the owners Sue and Dick are great host. Sue fixes an amazing breakfast and I am happy to report I didn’t miss one of them this year.

As promised I am sharing a few pictures from the Fiesta. If you have never been it is worth at least going once.


Goals month and reading


One of the goals I have set for the Coach Lee’s Unofficial Goals month is to read all the books I have on my shelves. Not a small feat but one worth doing. I shared some statistics in a recent day I wrote about the unread book and how it won’t do you any good. Because they are so interesting I wanted to share them on the blog.

Who is Reading Books (and who is not)

One-third of high school graduates never read another book for the rest of their lives. Many do not even graduate from high school.

58% of the US adult population never reads another book after high school.

42% of college graduates never read another book.

80% of US families did not buy or read a book last year.

70% of US adults have not been in a bookstore in the last five years.

57% of new books are not read to completion.
–Jerrold Jenkins.

Most readers do not get past page 18 in a book they have purchased.

Resource: Para Publishing

So far out of the books on my shelf that I have read, or at least started (have read at least 18 pages) the final Harry Potter book (finished this one), The Secret (almost done) and If the Buddha Came to Dinner (re-reading this one).

Some fun info about Harry Potter books shared on the Para Publishing site:

Harry Potter Bestsellers
Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone: 25.1 million
Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets: 22 million
Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban: 16.7 million
Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire: 16.3 million
The books have been published in 55 languages and distributed in more than 200 countries.
–The Wall Street Journal, January 16, 2003

I won’t give anything away about Harry Potter and the Deadly Hallow, the seventh and last book in the series by J. K. Rowling. It is worth reading, but not one of the best books in the series. The book is well written and still demonstrates an amazing imagination, however it appears that the writer is getting weary of Harry and doesn’t put as much into it. It is also a pretty violent book which I personally don’t care for and was somewhat surprised that Rowling felt it necessary to include. All in all I am glad I read it and now can pass it on. I do keep some of my books but not all. I like to recycle the ones I am sure I won’t be needing in the future.

My dear friend Katie Weber (Red Lotus Letter) gave me a copy of The Secret. To tell you the truth I would not have purchased the book as I thought the movie was good, but not great and not worth reading. However I must say I was surprised by the book and I am loving it. It includes parts from the movie but the author, Rhonda Byrne, does a great job on expanding on the ideas and concepts shared in the book. I would highly recommend it and will be keeping this one.

If the Buddha Came to Dinner: How to Nourish Your Body to Awaken Your Spirit by Halé Sofia Schatz is a book I am re-reading. I read it several years ago and decided to pull it off the shelves and read it again. In the book Schatz provides the outline for a great three week cleanse (which I am currently doing) and discusses what she calls “transformational nourishment.” I love how Schatz discusses preparing to cleanse which includes decluttering your home. The only disappointment in the book for me was the title, it actually has nothing to do with the book and I am guessing was just a good marketing idea. This book is a keeper and if you are interested in making serious changes in your eating habits, this is the book for you.

As I continue to read the books on my shelves I will share mini reviews with you. I have a plan to make reading much easier, which is a goal, which is to read while I am on the tread mill or stationary bike. That way I accomplish two goals at once.


Every Day with Rachael Ray


I adore Rachael Ray and look forward to receiving her magazine, Every Day With Rachael Ray, each month. This month is a special issue as Rachael goes green. The magazine is now printed on 100% Recycled Paper.

Not sure if this is going to be a regular section but Rachael did include tips from readers on how to save the planet. The tips range from creating a compost to driving a Hybrid Car.

And if you think that Rachael’s magazine is just for cooks, think again. One can tell that Oprah has a big influence on the magazine and there are articles, ideas and tips for everyone. There is advice on “How to get along with your Relatives” as well as interviews with well known people and even suggestions on travel. There are lots of decorating tips and always included in every issue is an idea for a centerpiece. This month it is made out of recycled plastic grocery bags, not my fave.

If you are looking for recipes Rachael’s magazine won’t disappoint. You will find all kinds of wonderful things, the famous 30 minute recipes, a pull out section with a week of recipes, a kids corner with special recipes for kids and my personal fave, a pet friendly section with a special recipe for the fur children.

Pick up a copy of Rachael Ray’s magazine and enjoy. Better yet subscribe and have a full year of fun.


Las Vegas Babe


Here are a few fabulous photos taken while I was in Las Vegas attending the first annual KRC Wildest Dreams conference. Just in case you are wondering what in the world that is I will tell you. Katie Weber and Cookie Tuminello (Cookie is a long time subscriber to 365 Days of Coaching) and I went to Vegas and held our own business conference. The three of us met last year at the E-Zine Queen conference and hit it off so well we formed a Master Mind Group. We decided that we would all get together at some point to have concentrated time to focus on our businesses, and we did just that. Oh I know from the pictures it looks like all fun and no work, believe me we worked.

I would highly recommend forming a Master Mind group with like minded people that are committed to their success as well as yours. It is amazing what you can get done when you have the support and encouragement of others.

It also helps to get away from the office and take some time to focus on your business and not just work in it. Even if you work for someone else, getting away and reassessing your goals and making sure you are on the right track if very important to your success.

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Unofficial "Goals" Month


I have declared October the unofficial Goals month. I think October is a great time to review your goals, make sure you are on track, tweak them or change them. Don’t wait until the first of the year, get goaling now!

Goal Setting Overview

1. Make sure the goals you set are for something that you really want, not just
something that sounds good, or you think you should want, or someone else thinks you should have.

2. Goals and actions must work together.

If you have a goal of spending more time with your family, it doesn’t make sense to take a job that includes 90% travel.

3. If you need help from other people in achieving your goal, will you have their

If you need others to achieve your goal, make sure that they also have the same goal as you. It won’t work if you are working towards a goal that they do not want or are not willing to help you achieve.

4. Write your goal in the positives instead of the negative. Work for what you want, not for what you want to leave behind.

5. Write your goal out in complete detail.

Instead of writing, “I want to complete my degree,” write, “I want to complete my bachelors within two years with a 3.5 grade point average.” The clearer you are about what you want the better you will be able to focus on it.

6. Make your goal a stretch. Your goal should be challenging enough to compel you. It should be just out of reach but not unreachable.

7. Turn your goals into positive affirmations. Write your goals as if they already have happened. Such as “I have successfully completed my bachelors degree with a 3.5 GPA.”

So your goals are written down. Now what?

1.Share your goals only with those who will support you in achieving them. Negative attitudes from those who do not share your enthusiasm for your goal can quickly drag you down.

2.Use positive self-talk to keep yourself motivated and passionate about your goal.

3.Review your goals daily. This way you will remind yourself of what you need to do each day to get closer to making your goal a reality. Positive self-talk works on both the subconscious and conscious minds to support you in creating what you want.

4.As you are making decisions, ask yourself how this supports your goals. Will this take you closer or further from the goal? If the answer is “closer to,” then you are on the right track. If the answer is “further from” the goal, then it would be a good idea to rethink the decision and see if you can rework it to make it bring your closer to your goal.

Warning: It is natural to take detours on your way to your goals. However, if you keep the goal in mind it will be easier to get back on track. Don’t be too hard on yourself for straying from time to time, it happens. And you don’t want to be so rigid in your goals that you are closed to other opportunities that present themselves.

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National Adopt a Dog Month


Just in case you wanted to know, this is National Adopt a Dog Month (sponsored by the American Humane Society). My Yorkish (more ish than Yorkie) fur child Buddy was adopted from United Yorkie Rescue. He is an amazing little guy and my husband and I both adore him. For whatever reason people choose not to keep their companion animals and bring them to shelters and rescue associations. These animals make great pets and companions.

According to the Doggie News (News your Dog would want to know about) “Each October, the American Humane Association partners with local animal shelters across the country in promoting Adopt-A-Dog Month(R), a massive national campaign to highlight wonderful homeless dogs waiting to be adopted. The special month encourages people to visit their local animal shelter first to adopt their new best friend.”

Doggie News also gives tips for deciding on a companion animal and how to make the adoption a success.

“With so many wonderful dogs needing a home, it can be difficult to choose. To make the decision-making process an easier one, consider the following tips.

Choose a dog based on your living space, lifestyle, and budget. Your local shelter’s adoption counselors can help you make the right decision.

Discuss the needs, concerns, fears, and medical conditions (like allergies!) of everyone in the family. Decide how much time you each can spend with the animal and the amount of responsibility each person will have.

Be realistic. Promises made by children are likely to fade after the initial excitement of having a pet wears off. Adults in the family should expect to provide most of the animal’s care.

Celebrate Adopt-A-Dog Month by visiting your local shelter today. It’s the perfect time to save a pet’s life and make a new friend!”


Great Time in DC


I had a great time in DC at the Glazier-Kennedy seminar. Lots of powerful presentations where I picked up some amazing ideas. I so recommend attending conferences, seminars, classes or reading books that will challenge and support you to improve and develop yourself, your skills and your life.