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Strengthen your boundaries

Strengthen your boundaries

One of the most important things you can do to improve yourself and your life is strengthen your boundaries. Boundaries are what you allow others to do to you and around you. By having strong boundaries you create clear guidelines of how others are allowed to treat you and behave around you.

The distinction between standards and boundaries is that standards are the rules you live by and boundaries are the rules you set for how others are allowed to treat you. When you are clear with your boundaries others will be as well. Often you don’t have to even state what your boundaries are, people will intuitively know what they are. My husband has very strong boundaries around the level of respect others will show him. Because he is so clear with his boundaries he rarely has issues with receiving respect from others.
If you are unhappy with the way others treat you it is time to strengthen your boundaries. When your boundaries are weak they leave you vulnerable and likely to be taken for granted and abused by others. In contrast strong boundaries nurture a healthy self-respect that will demonstrate to others that you deserve, and even demand, to be treated with respect. Weak boundaries leave you open to exploitative relationships and people who do not have your best interest at heart. It is imperative for your own well being that your boundaries are strong and that you don’t allow other people to cross them.

When strengthening your boundaries there are three areas that you might want to focus on. The first one is the thing that you would like people to stop doing around you such as gossiping, smoking or swearing. The next area to look at are the things you don’t want people to do to you such as putting you down, being rude or ignoring you. The third area are the things you don’t want people to say to you such as “You never keep a promise” or “You always give up too soon.” Put a ban on allowing people to do or say anything around you that you don’t like, are not comfortable with or isn’t supportive.

You might think that this isn’t possible since you are trying to control the actions of others. Actually all you are doing is creating a boundary of what actions they can do around you. They are free to do whatever they like when you are not present. My father was a very difficult person and given the chance he would say and do the meanest things. I had very strong boundaries with my father with what he could do and say around me. It took me awhile to train my father how to treat me but he did eventually get it. Although he continued his unacceptable behavior around others, he didn’t dare to act mean towards and around me. I simply would not tolerate it and he knew it.

When you are strengthening your boundaries you will have to retrain people on how to treat you. You might need to say something like, “It isn’t okay for you to speak to me like that.” Or you might need to let someone know that they cannot do a certain behavior around you. You might say, “I don’t allow smoking in my home. Please go outside if you wish to smoke.” You might need to tell someone several times how to treat you or that they cannot do something around you. Keep in mind that you are retraining them on how to act around you and new behavior takes time to learn.

Boundaries are important for the quality of your life. If you want to improve your life, strengthen your boundaries.

New Look


So how do you like it? The new look of the blog that is. In addition to the new look for the blog the website had a face lift as well. Let me know how you like it.

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Live the Day,


Quoted in the Miami Herald


One of my favorite bloggers and Columnist for the Herald, Cindy Krischer Goodman, quoted me in one of her recent articles, BALANCING ACT – Think before you take on too much As school and work rev up, it’s all too easy to overcommit. Take five to assess your priorities before saying yes.

Just go to the Miami Herald and you can read the entire article. I am quoted several times on how to stay balanced and happy.

Live the Day,


The Secret Recipe


Today I told you about a secret recipe that a man would not share at a party. Trust me there is no reason not to share, and especially this recipe. Just go to Google and type in Ritz Cheese Pineapple and there will be 158,000 mentions of the recipe. Okay now 158,001. Enjoy.


2 cans (16 oz. each) crushed pineapple, drained
1 cup grated cheddar cheese
1 cup sugar
3 tbsp flour
1 sleeve Ritz crackers, crushed
1 stick (1/2 cup) butter, melted

Preheat oven to 350 degrees F.

Place drained pineapple on bottom of a 2 quart casserole dish.

Mix together cheese, sugar, and flour and spread over pineapple.

Mix crushed Ritz crackers with melted butter and spread over top of cheese mixture.

Bake at 350 degrees for 25 minutes.

Note: Can double recipe and use a 13×9-inch baking pan.

I serve this as a dessert but some people have told me they serve it with the meal, especially if serving Ham. Yummo.

The yummo picture comes from the site Recipe Zarr. If you want a recipe my guess is they will have it. The picture is compliments of Leslie.

Live the Day


Self Improvement Month – Get your Career in Gear


What better time to take stock of your career than during Self Improvement Month. I was chatting with a client today that doesn’t hate her job, but isn’t happy with it either. I suggested that she start looking for a job she would love. Her reply was, “Don’t you think most people are unhappy with their jobs. Isn’t that normal.” My reply sad enough was “Yes most people are unhappy in their jobs, but do you have to be one of them?” If you don’t love what you do for most of the day you are wasting your life, and I mean that literally. Stop and assess what you are doing and what you need to do to have a career that you love, that supports you and that brings out the best in you. You deserve it.

My best friend and feng shui guru Kathryn Weber included an article in her newsletter this week about how to improve your career with feng shui. I love her practical and easy suggestions on how to change your environment and improve your life.

If you don’t already receive The Red Lotus Letter, I would highly recommend that you subscribe.

Feng Shui First Aid for Your Career

Enhancing careers with feng shui is a popular subject in feng shui. Second to generating wealth, energizing the career sector ranks high in interest among those interested in using feng shui to better their lives.

It makes sense due to the amount of time we spend at our jobs. It also is understandable because to have a successful career enables us to make better decisions for ourselves and our families.

By this, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you simply make more money, because money doesn’t solve all the ills of career problems. Of course, it doesn’t hurt. However, there are plenty of people out there making good salaries but unhappy with their respective careers.

When you energize areas that you would like to improve, it’s possible to open up a range of possibilities. For instance, by energizing your career sector, your job may suddenly become better, or something new and better will be coming to you that you hadn’t expected at all, such as a business opportunity.

But this is the price of making changes — you get more changes in your life, and therefore, more choices! And, that’s what you usually want in your life: more opportunities and choices to create greater happiness for yourself and your family.

There are two critical areas to enhance if you want to improve your career: your house and your office. Below are ideas for both. However, these are not ALL the possible suggestions; only some of the most basic ones.

STEP ONE: Your Home

6 Key Steps

1. Look north. Make sure the north sector of your home is in good order. If your north sector is missing or if there is a toilet here, activate the north sector of your living room and office.

2. If your bedroom is in the north: This can be enhanced by decorating with blue or black, a picture of water (not overly large, however), and metal (preferably gold-colored) objects.

3. A north-facing home: Make the entrance to your home as attractive as possible to invite new opportunities. Make it neat and easy to come into by removing obstacles, blockages, dying plants, worn out welcome mats, etc.

By the way, DON’T buy welcome mats with your name on it you’ll be walking on your good name! Place an image of a turtle or fish here. Be sure to block any views that go straight through from the front of the house to the back or you’ll be missing opportunities (and losing money!).

4. Look south. Display peacock feathers in the south portion of the home and keep this area well-lit. The south represents recognition. A grouping of nine candles would be excellent here as well. Consider painting the south room in your house red, orange, or a shade of red.

5. Welcome career opportunities. Keep a light in the entrance to your home turned on. A chandelier with crystal prisms that cast the different colors about the entryway is especially good.

Or, hang a crystal below your light to cast colored prisms about the foyer. These are especially helpful if your stairs face or end close to the front door; good opportunities go right on out the door!

6. Add water to the front of your home. Consider putting in a water fountain (on the left side of the door as you look out of the house) inside the house or outside. (A water feature on the right side of the house invites cheating in the marriage.) If you put in a water feature outside your home, make sure the water appears to be flowing toward the house. This is one of the best ways to bring opportunities to your door.

Step Two: Your Office

8 Key Elements

1. Sit in a power position by facing (but not in direct line with) the door. Don’t sit with your back to the door ever. If your furnishings in your office or cubicle are built in, then turn your computer so that you can see someone coming from either your left or right side.

2. Tap your pa kua number. Face your personal best directions if at all possible, but never ignoring #1 above. Use as many of your personal best directions as possible!

3. Stop gossip. If gossip is a problem in your career, get a statue of a rooster and place it on your desk to look at anyone coming into the office. This will help curb some of the talk in the office.

4. Get support. This is extremely important for a good career and why you should have something solid behind you. If you have a window at your back, you will suffer from lack of support. Turn so that there is a wall behind you.

Also, make certain that there is not a bookshelf or open cabinets at your back. Place these where they are not in direct line with you or your desk. This also means making sure you don’t have any bookshelves shelves facing you. Move these if you do. Also be certain you don’t have a hallway, stairs, or other entry that is exactly opposite your desk.

5. Enhance your wealth corner. Place a plant in the SE corner of your office. Get rid of spindly, weak plants. Better to have a pretty silk plant than a real plant that is dying.

6. Be recognized. Trouble getting noticed? Place a lamp in the S corner of your office for more recognition. Also, place red objects, stones, or crystals in this location. The larger the stone, the better. Definitely go for heft and girth!

7. Activate your career sector. Place a tortoise in the north corner of your office to symbolize water and support. Or, place a big picture of water here. If you want to go all out, place an aquarium here with eight gold fish and one black gold fish.

8. Get help. It’s the “who you know principle” that you want to engage. So, make sure the NW corner is activated. You want mentors or people to help you, right? If so, place a rock or geode here, or place metal objects in this location. Stereos and electronics are also good placed in the NW to bring helpful people and mentors to you. Gold, silver, or white objects are good when placed here. Try hanging a 6-rod windchime with hollow rods in this sector.

Special Note: Don’t forget that the southeast has the wonderful white 1 star in 2007. That means water in this sector can bring you fantastic career luck that brings in money and a raise in pay!

©Kathryn Weber

Related articles and information
Create a Feng Shui Power Office
Auspicious Offices — 10 Ways to Make Your Office Make You Successful
Getting the Recognition You Deserve

——————————————————————————–< br />©Kathryn Weber. Kathryn Weber is the author of the ebook Applied Feng Shui and the publisher of the Red Lotus Letter Feng Shui E-zine with tips and information for abundant living. For more information or to subscribe to her popular Red Lotus Letter feng shui e-zine, log on to and get her FRÉE Special Report, 16 Feng Shui Tips for Greater Prosperity.

I'm going to be Happy no matter what


One of the best ways, maybe the only way to be happy is to decide you will be. Nothing makes you happy, happiness is an inside job. My radio co-host Christen Resmo, wrote a great newsletter this month on Being Happy No Matter What. I think this fits in nicely with our theme of Self Improvement this month. Really, what could improve your life more than deciding to be happy?

~Masterful Living~

Life Success Articles by Christen Murphy Resmo

“Getting as happy as you can be takes care of everything. Even if you don’t have reason to be happy—make it up. Fantasize it. Make a decision that you’re going to be happy one way or another—no matter what. If I have to ignore everybody; if I have to never watch television again; if I have to never pick up a newspaper again, I’m going to be happy.” ~ Abraham-Hicks

“I’m Going to Be Happy, No Matter What!”

I found the above quote by Abraham-Hicks when I was browsing around the internet earlier this week looking for my daily dose of inspiration. It struck a chord of truth within me – which got me excited about sharing it with you. You see, I appreciate advice that is straightforward and simple even when it isn’t easy to apply. Think about it, wouldn’t it be great to develop the talent of being happy, no matter what? Even as I write this, I realize that being happy isn’t a talent at all but a choice that we make from moment to moment. And this same choice, made over and over again, can eventually become a habit that can greatly improve the quality of our lives.

My good friend and radio co-host, Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, has a favorite saying that sums up this choice, “Today is the best day of my life and it’s only getting better!”

It’s really fun to be around Rachelle because she radiates this ‘best day’ point of view and it rubs off on those around her. Or, as she has shared with me, this attitude occasionally causes a few people to get upset. When Rachelle is asked about her day and she replies with, “This is the best day of my life”, she sometimes meets up with confrontation or hostile disbelief. “What do you mean this is the best day of your life?”, they’ll say. And then nastily, “Your life must not be very great then!” But, so what? No matter what, Rachelle still gets to choose the tone of her day and therefore determine the quality of her experience, regardless of what other people are choosing for themselves.

Being Happy for Ourselves Even When Others Can’t Be

Whenever you decide to grow or make a change in your life, you can expect to get flak from some people. I don’t say this to take the wind out of your sails. This is not a negative judgment call but simply my observation of life. In fact, if you know it’s coming — the lack of enthusiastic support from some people — you can then prepare yourself for it and still choose to be happy!

One of the complaints that I hear repeatedly from my clients is this, “I’m making positive changes in my life that I feel good about, but nobody else does.” If this is you, remind yourself that you are not responsible for other people’s happiness and you can’t control their opinions. The truth is, you aren’t going to make everyone happy or inspire everyone to support your choices, even when these choices are healthy. Some people will openly challenge or question your decisions, especially when you decide to do something that doesn’t conform with what’s considered ‘normal’. It’s more than okay to choose the road less traveled by, but many folks aren’t up for that kind of thing.

Isn’t it possible that the good and happy changes that you’re making are challenging the beliefs, paradigms and life choices of those who can’t support you? And when this is the case, these same people might choose to make you wrong rather than look at their own attitudes. They might be thinking (perhaps unconsciously), “I wish I could do that; but because I’m too afraid to, I’ll have to quickly make you wrong for it.” But it’s okay. Some people simply aren’t ready to examine their own life decisions squarely and honestly. It’s just easier for them to be critical of you than it is to be more self aware. Sadly, some people have forgotten to choose happiness and some have even forgotten that happiness is a choice at all. Nevertheless, each person is ultimately responsible for creating their own brand of happiness. This means that you’ve got to please yourself. If you are happy with the changes that you’re making, sometimes that has to be enough.

You Can Be Happy Even When…

People have disappointed or betrayed you

Somebody else is having a bad day and gets upset when you don’t join in their misery

Nobody seems genuinely supportive of your goals and dreams

The day is falling short of your high hopes

You are falling short of your high expectations or you didn’t complete your to-do list

Nothing runs smoothly, on time or according to your plans

Coaching Tip: Being happy is a choice. Don’t let other people’s misery effect your level of joy. If you have to ignore the phone when it rings because you need a few moments of peace, let it ring; it’s okay if the caller gets irritated when you don’t pick up. If you don’t want to listen to negative gossip at work, walk out of the room and go seek better company. If you have an emotionally draining person in your life that you have to ignore to remain light and cheerful, ignore them. You are NOT responsible for their choice to be happy or to be miserable. Be mature. Be your own adult. Be free of negativity today and decide to be happy, no matter what.

Until Next Month,

Enjoy Your Life and Live the Day!


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Self Improvement Month is zipping along


Self Improvement month is zipping along and my good intentions of posting every day are not happening. My mother always said, “The road to hell is paved with good intentions.” Although not posting on the blog I am doing a lot this month to improve my life and I hope you are too. I know for me it is in the forefront of my mind, and that makes a big difference.

Keep on going, there is plenty of September left to improve your life.


Raise your standards

Lets get started on Self Improvement month with raising your standards!

Today is the first day of the New and Improved You! Congratulations for taking this all-important first step. You are about to embark on an important journey, making the best of who you are! You are perfect just the way you are, and there are still ways to improve on you and the quality of your life.

The first step in the process is to raise your standards. According to the on-line dictionary a standard is “those morals, ethics, habits, etc., established by authority, custom, or an individual as acceptable.” Many people have high standards for their lives, some have average, and way too many people have low standards. Standards are the hallmarks of how you live your life. Standards are the rules and boundaries that you set for yourself.

Standards create the quality of your life. If you have low standards, your life will be low in quality. If you expect average or poor quality, you will receive it. When you begin to raise your standards and expect more life will get much better.

So what is a standard? A standard is what you hold yourself to. Standards include the level of quality, integrity and morals you expect from yourself. If you accept lying to others as okay, that is creating a low standard in your life and it will be reflected back to you. Standards are the boundaries and rules you create for yourself.

Standards are also reflected in the level of respect you have for yourself. That respect is apparent in the way you treat yourself and your environment, and the way you dress. Every aspect of your life is ruled by your standards.

Just so you understand what I am talking about, I have provided just some of the areas that are affected by the level of your standards:

ü Your dress/demeanor
ü The way you speak/language/how you talk about yourself
ü Your vocabulary
ü Your self talk
ü The way you treat yourself and others
ü The amount of clutter and the cleanliness of your environment
ü The condition of the things in your environment
ü The way you care for your health
ü Your personal hygiene including your teeth, nails, hair, breath
ü Your personal finances/the way you handle money
ü The way you value yourself
ü Keeping your word/telling the truth
ü Living according to your personal values

When raising your standards it is good to select one area at a time, as we have been talking about. This isn’t about changing everything at once; it is about creating change that you can maintain over your lifetime. Start with something simple so that you can see success right away. One of the standards that I raised in the beginning was my environment. I first began by going through my environment and cleaning it up. Getting organized and putting things where they belonged was an easy first step for me. I set a standard that I would only have items in my house that I loved. I decided to get rid of everything I did not use, love or want any more. I donated the items that were still in good condition and pitched the rest. Just cleaning up and clearing out my environment made me feel better.

Next I picked a room that I would bring up to a higher standard. I started first with my closet and cleaned it out. I got rid of all the clothes that I no longer loved, could wear, or would wear. There is no sense in keeping your old sized clothes hoping to get back into them. When and if you do, you will want something new to wear. And as long as they are hanging in your closet they are a constant reminder of the past and you simply don’t need that. All the outfits in your closet should make you look great and feel great. If they don’t, raise your standards and get rid of them. Also, all your clothes should be in good repair, no rips, missing buttons or stains. I now have a standard that everything in my closet must be something I love, it must make me look good and it should be ready to wear. Although it doesn’t sound like such a big deal, this is about raising your standards and demanding something better for yourself.

Next I took at look at my bedroom and decided to make some simple but profound changes. One of my first coaches, Thomas Leonard, who introduced me to this concept, suggested raising the thread count on the bed sheets. His suggestion was something like 400 Egyptian cotton, which I did and the first time I washed and dried the sheets they came out a winkled mess. I have a standard of “No Ironing” so this didn’t work for me. But I did go up to 200-thread count with an all cotton sheet and I found that it was a nicer softer feel and no ironing was required. Less you think this sounds pretty materialistic it isn’t. It is about creating an environment that supports and nurtures.

Pick one area of your life, you get to decide, and raise the standard in that area. Don’t go overboard. Just pick one area and work on it for the month. It could be as simple as monitoring your thoughts and upgrading your self-talk, or you could pick a room in your home and get rid of all the clutter and anything that you don’t love. When you look for ways to raise your standards there will be no shortage of opportunities.

Mini Worksheet

I will raise my standard in this area of my life:

Here are the thirty things I will do in the next thirty days to raise my standards in this area:

Self Improvement Month Primer

30 Days to the New and Improved You –


I am not a fan of quick self-improvement. I believe change takes time to actually get it at what I call a cellular level. However, I also believe you have to start somewhere and where you are right now is a great place. I also believe that if you commit to creating change in the next 30 days you will be well on your way to creating the life you have dreamed of and deserve. If you focus your attention on yourself and your own self-improvement for the next 30 days I will guarantee that you will see a new and improved you. I also know that you will have created the momentum to keep you going.

Yes you can have a New and Improved You in the next 30 days, but you can’t stop there. You will have to keep it up, keep going and keep improving. I love the quote, “When we are green we are growing and when we are ripe we rot.” What that means is as long as you are willing to keep on growing, keep on becoming the best you can be and keep on being willing to make the tweaks and changes necessary, you will always be growing. The minute you think you know all you need to know, have changed all you need to change and don’t need to do anything different, you start to rot. Life is a process of continual change and you have just taken the next step in this life long process. Congratulations, and don’t stop there. There will always be room for growth, change and improvement. Throughout your life you will be creating the New and Improved You.

I remember going to the grocery store and seeing my favorite laundry soap with a label on it that said, “New and Improved.” I thought to myself, “What have I been using, Old and Yucky?” I reluctantly bought the detergent and was pleasantly surprised. It WAS New and Improve. However what I liked most about it, the scent, the quality and the results were all still there, if not better. When you become New and Improved, you won’t be changing everything about yourself. You will be making small changes, maybe even tweaks to who you are right now. See, you are perfect just the way you are, and only getting better. The New and Improved you will be bringing out the best in you building on who you are and what you are already doing. The good news is you don’t have to start from scratch; you can build on the foundation you have already started.

For the next 30 days commit to your own self-improvement. Pick just one area of your life and focus your attention in that area. Oh I know it is tempting to say, “Hey I will just change it all.” That is the recipe for disappointment and failure. It is too much too soon. The exciting news here is that when you start to change one area of your life, often other areas improve as well. And of course we know that we can’t change other people, however when you begin to change you might notice the people around you will respond to your differently. That is just a bonus of this process. I might also warn that there are times when people will self-select out of your life because they want you to remain the same and won’t be happy with the New and Improved You. That is part of the process as well so just be aware.

The next 30 days will be exciting, scary, happy, sad, surprising, disappointing and everything in-between. When you begin to change there will be parts of you that will resist. Those parts of you that are happy with how things are, or at least comfortable, won’t want to change. You might see some self-sabotaging going on. That is part of the process, but don’t let it stop you.

We talk to ourselves constantly. This talk comes in the form of thoughts. Research has discovered that we have roughly 60,000 thoughts a day. A majority of those thoughts are negative and up to 90% of the thoughts you think today were the same as the day before. One of the ways to begin to change from the outside in is to monitor your thoughts and begin to change them. This will take time and we will be looking at that as we go through the next 30 Days. For now just be aware of your thoughts and notice if what you are thinking is supportive or not.

So strap on the seat belt and get ready for a fast and fun ride. For the next 30 days you will be focusing on you, your life and how you will improve it. This is going to be challenging and at times hard work. But you are worth it and you deserve to have the best life for you possible. That is what I want for you and I trust that is what you want for yourself.

Tomorrow I will begin posting ideas, tips and suggestions on how you can improve yourself. But I am not the only expert, you are an expert on your life even more than I am. Feel free to adapt the advice I give to fit your own situation, needs and desires. And by all means share what you come up with on this blog so we can all learn from each each other.

So here is to the next 30 Days.

Live the Day


National Self Improvement Month


September is National Self Improvement Month. Whew. An exciting time and great opportunity to make those improvements you have been putting off.

I have challenged all my readers of 365 Days of Coaching to do one thing every day this month to improve their life! So that I am not one of those who simply give advice but actually take it as well, I will be participating in my own challenge. This month I will focus on my Health and my Heart (soul). Each day I will do something for my health and for my heart I will help someone else by doing a random act of kindness.

So that you don’t think I simply made this month up, although I sure wish I would have thought of it, it actually is sponsored by the International Socieity of Friendship and Good Will. According to their website:

“The idea for an international organization to foster international understanding, better human relations, peace, friendship, and good will came to Dr. Stanley J. Drake on his 60th birthday, March 8, 1976, when he was contemplating retiring as president of Fort Lauderdale University. Dr. Drake discussed the kind of organization he envisaged with his internationally minded friends in the United States and corresponded with others in Europe, and two years later, on March 8. 1978, the International Society of Friendship and Good Will (ISFGW) came into existence.”

Oddly enough there isn’t a mention of Self Improvement Month on the website however according to the book Celebrate today! by John Kremer they are noted as the sponsors so we will go with it.

So here is the day that will be coming out! Gosh my editors don’t even know I am posting this yet! So you are the first to see it.

Happy Self Improvement Month

September is Self Improvement Month. Although you could get so excited about celebrating the month that you decide to change everything about your life, I would caution against it. Instead of trying to change everything and risk burnout and disappointment, during the festive season decide to focus on just one area of your life. For the next thirty days begin to improve just one area by doing just one thing differently each day. In a month you will be very surprised at how much you have improved.

Daily action is the key to permanent life long change. It is the small steps taken over time that will make the biggest difference in your life. During this holiday season, Self Improvement Month, focus on one area of your life and just one thing you could do every day to improve it. Perhaps you will take a twenty-minute walk every day, meditate or have silence every day, read something inspiring and motivating every day (actually you already do that so pick another one) or anything that is going to improve the quality of your life.

I have decided to focus on two things (okay so I am a bit of an over achiever) this month. My health will be my number one focus and I will be doing something every day to improve that. The other area is my heart (as in my spirit and soul) and I plan on doing one act of random kindness for the next 30 days. Doing something every day for the next thirty days in these two areas of my life will mean that at the end of the month I will have focused my time and energy on improvement and I know that something good and everlasting will come out of this.

So here is the challenge – for the next thirty days do one thing that will improve your life every day! Just pick an area and focus on it. You will be amazed at the results, I promise!


I am so excited that Self Improvement Month is finally here! What a great reason to kick your goals into gear and to focus on improving your life. So don’t wait any longer, the time in now and you are here. And at the end of the month there you will be in a different place with your life. Get ready for the New and Improved you!

Coaching Question:

How will you celebrate Self Improvement Month?

Live the Day:

This month do something every day that will improve your life.

Check the Live the Day Blog. Every day this month I will be posting something on my Blog that will help to inspire and motivate you to improve your life. (put a link to blog here)


“There is always room for improvement.” Coach Lee

“Employ your time in improving yourself by other men’s writings so that you shall come easily by what others have labored hard for.” Socrates

“In this world man must either be anvil or hammer.” Henry W. Longfellow

So lets do it! Every day this month do something to improve your life. I will be, and I will be posting it on the blog! Feel free to share what you are doing on the blog as well and we will all improve together!!!!!!

Live the Day