Create your own traditions
Tis the season and traditions abound. Traditions are wonderful because they keep us connected to that which is most important to us and give us warm and fuzzy feelings. Traditions are comforting because they add a constant to our lives and a certainty that isn’t always there. With all that is wonderful about traditions, they can also cause stress and discomfort. You don’t have to carry on a tradition and you can always start new ones.
When it comes to traditions I believe there are four basics rules to follow.
Number one, embrace it. If you love a tradition than by all means embrace it. I love sending out cards. It just doesn’t seem right to me not to. I know a lot of people have abandoned this tradition, but I love it, so it stays.
Rule number two is tweak it. There may be a tradition that you love but it needs a makeover. As a child we always opened one gift two days before Christmas (love doing this), all the gifts not from Santa on Christmas Eve and only the presents from Santa on Christmas Day. As an adult I have tweaked the process a tad. My husband, the fur children and I each open one gift two days before Christmas, we open just a few gifts on Christmas Eve (usually gifts from family and friends) and open the rest Christmas Day. I honor my family tradition and just make it work for my life now.
Rule three, if you don’t love it, leave it. If there is a tradition that you don’t love, don’t do it. You don’t have to follow tradition if you don’t want to. So if there is something that simply doesn’t make your holiday, leave it and follow rule number four.
Rule number four is create your own traditions. As you establish your own life, you will want to create your own traditions. Each year I pull a tag off the Christmas tree at my local grocery store and buy a present for the child who’s name appears on the tag. I have been doing it for years, and it is my special tradition.
Traditions are wonderful and can make the holiday special, or not. As you grow into your own you need to decide what traditions work for you, which ones don’t and what new ones do you want to create.
Traditions are wonderful and they can also be a pain. If you don’t love a tradition don’t do it. Why would you? Only follow the traditions that make your holiday bright and have meaning to you. Don’t be afraid to create your own traditions. Traditions that are created by you will have more meaning and add more joy to your holiday season.
Whatever you decide to do to celebrate the holiday, make it your own and enjoy it.