I'm going to be Happy no matter what

Greetings:

One of the best ways, maybe the only way to be happy is to decide you will be. Nothing makes you happy, happiness is an inside job. My radio co-host Christen Resmo, wrote a great newsletter this month on Being Happy No Matter What. I think this fits in nicely with our theme of Self Improvement this month. Really, what could improve your life more than deciding to be happy?



~Masterful Living~

Life Success Articles by Christen Murphy Resmo



"Getting as happy as you can be takes care of everything. Even if you don't have reason to be happy—make it up. Fantasize it. Make a decision that you're going to be happy one way or another—no matter what. If I have to ignore everybody; if I have to never watch television again; if I have to never pick up a newspaper again, I'm going to be happy." ~ Abraham-Hicks





“I’m Going to Be Happy, No Matter What!”



I found the above quote by Abraham-Hicks when I was browsing around the internet earlier this week looking for my daily dose of inspiration. It struck a chord of truth within me – which got me excited about sharing it with you. You see, I appreciate advice that is straightforward and simple even when it isn’t easy to apply. Think about it, wouldn’t it be great to develop the talent of being happy, no matter what? Even as I write this, I realize that being happy isn’t a talent at all but a choice that we make from moment to moment. And this same choice, made over and over again, can eventually become a habit that can greatly improve the quality of our lives.



My good friend and radio co-host, Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, has a favorite saying that sums up this choice, “Today is the best day of my life and it’s only getting better!”



It’s really fun to be around Rachelle because she radiates this ‘best day’ point of view and it rubs off on those around her. Or, as she has shared with me, this attitude occasionally causes a few people to get upset. When Rachelle is asked about her day and she replies with, “This is the best day of my life”, she sometimes meets up with confrontation or hostile disbelief. “What do you mean this is the best day of your life?”, they’ll say. And then nastily, “Your life must not be very great then!” But, so what? No matter what, Rachelle still gets to choose the tone of her day and therefore determine the quality of her experience, regardless of what other people are choosing for themselves.



Being Happy for Ourselves Even When Others Can’t Be



Whenever you decide to grow or make a change in your life, you can expect to get flak from some people. I don’t say this to take the wind out of your sails. This is not a negative judgment call but simply my observation of life. In fact, if you know it’s coming -- the lack of enthusiastic support from some people -- you can then prepare yourself for it and still choose to be happy!



One of the complaints that I hear repeatedly from my clients is this, “I’m making positive changes in my life that I feel good about, but nobody else does.” If this is you, remind yourself that you are not responsible for other people’s happiness and you can’t control their opinions. The truth is, you aren’t going to make everyone happy or inspire everyone to support your choices, even when these choices are healthy. Some people will openly challenge or question your decisions, especially when you decide to do something that doesn’t conform with what’s considered ‘normal’. It’s more than okay to choose the road less traveled by, but many folks aren’t up for that kind of thing.



Isn’t it possible that the good and happy changes that you’re making are challenging the beliefs, paradigms and life choices of those who can’t support you? And when this is the case, these same people might choose to make you wrong rather than look at their own attitudes. They might be thinking (perhaps unconsciously), “I wish I could do that; but because I’m too afraid to, I’ll have to quickly make you wrong for it.” But it’s okay. Some people simply aren’t ready to examine their own life decisions squarely and honestly. It’s just easier for them to be critical of you than it is to be more self aware. Sadly, some people have forgotten to choose happiness and some have even forgotten that happiness is a choice at all. Nevertheless, each person is ultimately responsible for creating their own brand of happiness. This means that you’ve got to please yourself. If you are happy with the changes that you’re making, sometimes that has to be enough.



You Can Be Happy Even When…



People have disappointed or betrayed you

Somebody else is having a bad day and gets upset when you don’t join in their misery

Nobody seems genuinely supportive of your goals and dreams

The day is falling short of your high hopes

You are falling short of your high expectations or you didn’t complete your to-do list

Nothing runs smoothly, on time or according to your plans



Coaching Tip: Being happy is a choice. Don’t let other people’s misery effect your level of joy. If you have to ignore the phone when it rings because you need a few moments of peace, let it ring; it’s okay if the caller gets irritated when you don’t pick up. If you don’t want to listen to negative gossip at work, walk out of the room and go seek better company. If you have an emotionally draining person in your life that you have to ignore to remain light and cheerful, ignore them. You are NOT responsible for their choice to be happy or to be miserable. Be mature. Be your own adult. Be free of negativity today and decide to be happy, no matter what.



Until Next Month,

Enjoy Your Life and Live the Day!

Christen



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In September of 2007, Christen teams up with Denver’s Diva of the Airwaves, Rachelle Disbennett-Lee and co-hosts Live the Day! Radio on KNUS 710 AM. If you’re in the Denver area, you can tune in at 8:30 am Mountain Time every Sunday, Or listen live, anywhere, on the KNUSwebsite Sundays at 8:30 am Mountain Time, 10:30 am Eastern



Learn about Live the Day Radio at www.livethedayradio.com



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Christen Resmo is a professional success coach, author, speaker, and president of Benchmark Coaching, Inc. Her most popular class and most sought after program to date, Your Abundant Life™ can be found at www.benchmarkcoaching.com This FREE six week program teaches you how to successfully apply the Law of Attraction with the Six Power Principles for Life Success. What are you waiting for? Your abundant life can start today! Learn more about the group coaching classes that accompany this program at www.benchmarkcoaching.com

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