Ask for Forgiveness

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Published by Rachelle Disbennett-Lee
Friday, August 23, 2002
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I once heard a speaker discuss the "Art of Apology." He was talking about sincerely apologizing to people who we hurt or offend and then taking it one step further by actually, asking for forgiveness. Simply say, "I am sorry. I made a mistake. Can you forgive me?" By asking the other person for forgiveness, you give her the opportunity to actively forgive you and to release it. This way you both can move forward without anyone harboring resentment.

Coaching

Rabbi Dave Zeller offers, "Nine words that could change the world." They are "I'm sorry. I made a mistake. Please forgive me." I would add, "Can you forgive me?"

Remember, just because we say we are sorry doesn't mean the other person has to forgive us. However, if we ask them, it gives them the opportunity to think about whether they will or will not forgive us. If they say yes, we can move forward with the relationship. If they say no, we will know that we have reached an impasse that may or may not stop the relationship from moving forward.

Coach's question

Can you ask for forgiveness?

Daily Success Formula

Ask for forgiveness = The opportunity to forgive and release

Quotes

"It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend." William Blake

"Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit." Peter Ustinov

"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." Mahatma Gandhi

"Forgiveness is almost a selfish act because of its immense benefits to the one who forgives." Lawana Blackwell