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Published by Rachelle Disbennett-Lee
Wednesday, February 13, 2002
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Keeping
with my theme for the year of "Getting Out There,"
I decided to submit a proposal to speak at the annual International
Coach Federation Convention to be held this year in Atlanta,
Georgia. I must tell you that the thought of speaking to
250 coaches makes me queasy. It took me a month to put the
proposal together. I just couldn't seem to work through
it. It was such a struggle that I decided to call a coach
for support. I felt worse after speaking with this coach.
The advice was not helpful and made me feel that I could
not do this. I was ready to abandon the idea.
Then
I called my friend and most excellent coach, Christen Murphy.
I told her my dilemma. She provided the coaching I needed.
Christen advised me to be myself, put what I wanted on the
proposal and let go of the outcome. It wasn't about being
selected. It was about representing myself in the way I
was most comfortable. I mentioned to Christen that I wanted
to copy my proposal on to goldenrod paper instead of the
predictable white paper. She said, "You are Goldenrod."
It has been my mantra ever since.
Coaching
The
hardest thing we will ever have to do is be is ourselves.
It can be so difficult because it makes us vulnerable. I
could have written a proposal that fit the suggested list,
but it would not have been me. I would rather not be selected
than be accepted for pretending to be someone I'm not.
I
am Goldenrod. I am bright and different and a little "out
there." Although I am difficult for some people to
handle, it is the only way that I can truly be me and be
happy. Trying to be someone else is actually painful. I
know because I spent many years trying to be what others
wanted me to be. Not anymore. I have to be the me I came
here to be even if that means being a little out there and
a little too goldenrod.
Are
you ready to be goldenrod (or some other outrageous color)?
Daily
Success Formula
Being
Goldenrod = Being me
Quotes
Most
people want to be different just like everyone else. Coach
Lee
"To
be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best,
night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight
the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and
never stop fighting." e. e. cummings
"If
you do not express your own original ideas, if you do not
listen to your own being, you will have betrayed yourself.
Also, you will have betrayed your community in failing to
make your contribution." Rollo May
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