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Published by Rachelle Disbennett-Lee
Monday, January 21, 2002
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The first of this year seems so far away.
Weeks have passed since we made those New Year resolutions
and vowed that this year would be different. What happened
to that goal you set to make a change in your life?
Where is the lost goal? What happened? Why,
only a few weeks after making it, has it already been forgotten?
The problem with goals is that they are easy to make but
much more difficult to keep. Most goals require that we
make some kind of change. Change is almost always a challenge
even when the change is a good one.
To achieve a goal, we usually have to change
from the inside out. We must change the way we think and
feel. This is the challenge that can make achieving goals
so difficult and so rewarding.
If you lost one of your goals, it might
not be because of the goal. It may be because you were not
ready to change your thoughts and feelings about the goal.
In order to achieve the goal, an inner realignment must
occur. Are you willing to do what it takes to make the inside
changes that are necessary to reach the goal? If not, be
honest with yourself and know that until you are ready on
the inside nothing is going to happen on the outside.
If you lost a goal and are not ready to
find it, let it go. Stop talking about it. Stop beating
yourself up over it and stop saying "if only."
When you are ready, if you are ever ready, you can always
go back and find the goal. Until then, pick a goal that
you are willing, able, and ready to work on. Success breeds
success. Once you achieve one goal you may be ready to reclaim
your lost goal.
Coaching
Lost goals can be dangerous because we can
see them as personal failures. Stop. If you are not ready
to go for a goal, let it go. Focus on the goals that you
are ready to achieve and put your energy into more positive
actions. Once you get the momentum of success rolling, you
might find yourself discovering your lost goals with the
commitment to take them on.
Lost goals vary from person to person. Two
of my personal favorites are to lose weight and get in shape.
Only when we are ready will we actually take on a goal.
If we aren't ready, these goals turn into wishes and wishes
rarely come true without some plan of action.
Let it go. If you are not ready, that is
OK. Simply focus on what you are ready for. You may find
that by focusing on what you can do you will have the courage
and energy to do those more challenging goals. Or you might
find out that you are just as happy without achieving the
goal that it was not something that you really wanted. Fine,
then go on with your life and stop worrying about what you
won't do.
What can you do today that is unexpected?
Daily Success Formula
Lost goals = Energy Drains
Quotes
"It may be said with a degree of assurance
that not everything that meets the eye is as it appears."
Rod Serling
"No matter what we want of life we
have to give up something in order to get it." Raymond
Holliwell
"People are where they are because
that is exactly where they really want to be, whether they
will admit that or not." Earl Nightingale
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