There Is No Excuse For Being Rude
Published by Rachelle Disbennett-Lee
Monday, December 3, 2001
There is never a good excuse for being rude.
Nothing gives us permission to treat someone else poorly.
Even if we are choosing to have a bad day, that is no excuse
to drag someone else into our bad attitude.
I was traveling to Minneapolis departing
from the Denver Airport. I arrived two and half hours early
to deal with the tighter security. After confirming my ticket,
my next step was to get into the security line for access
to the terminal. That is when I met Ms. Rude. She was checking
ID's before letting anyone walk through the metal detector.
When I approached her, she glared at me. She bellowed, "You
can only have two carry-ons and they have to be neatly packed.
Just look at this mess." She then informed me that
I would have to go and buy a bag to consolidate all my things
before I could board the airplane. She made some rude remark,
as I stepped out of line, about not being able to read.
She was correct. I did have three carry-ons
and in my haste to be out the door at 5:00 am my leather
bag wasn't neatly packed. I didn't think this was the end
of the world and all she needed to say was I needed to repack
or figure something else out. What I ended up doing was
going off to the side, consolidating everything and got
back in line with just two bags. Lucky for me Ms. Rude was
on break and everything went smoothly from there.
For whatever reason, Ms. Rude decided to
treat me poorly. I know it was nothing personal. How she
treated me had everything to do with her and nothing to
do with me. I also knew that I wasn't about to give Ms.
Rude my day. I could have reacted to her poor attitude,
perhaps argued with her, and maybe even gotten in a bad
mood myself. But, I made a choice not to. Even when others
are rude to us, that is still no excuse for being rude.
Who is in control of our emotions and reactions? If I reacted
to her, I would have just given her control over me. I simply
refuse to do that. I was polite back to her and went about
my day with a happy attitude.
You are in control of your reactions and
emotions. Being rude to others because we are in a bad mood,
or someone has been rude to us, is no excuse. We make a
choice every moment how we will respond to our environment.
It isn't up to someone else what our reactions will be.
It is up to us. We can choose to be sucked into their drama
or we can choose something different. For me, being rude
takes too much energy. I would rather be polite and pleasant
and leave happy.
Now, I am not saying this is easy. Before
we can even get to the point where we can respond this way
we have to become aware of how our environment is affecting
us. That takes some practice. Many of us simply respond
out of habit. We first need to become aware of our habit
of being unconscious and in response mode and wake up. Once
we are conscious of how outside stimuli controls us, we
can make a choice to be aware and proactive.
Are you responding or reacting to your environment?
Daily Success Formula
Rudeness + Reacting =
"Ideological differences are no excuse
for rudeness." Judith Martin