Change is a wonderful thing and can bring a lot of great things with it. However, the process of change can be challenging and frustrating. If given a choice, I think most people would be happy with change if they could forgo the process of getting to the end result. Unfortunately, the journey is a big part of the change. There is no way of getting around the frustrating part of change. The best you can do is deal with it and focus on the great things the change will create.
My favorite grocery store is going through a huge remodeling project and staying open while the change takes place. I have seen some of the benefits of the change already; an olive bar, a wonderful sandwich and soup area, and an expanded offering of organic foods. I am also experiencing the frustrating part of the change as well. As I was doing my weekly shopping, I found myself being surprised each time I turned down an aisle. I have shopped at this store for more than ten years, so I knew where everything was. It was disconcerting to turn down the pasta aisle and find the spice and baking supplies aisle. I turned down the paper aisle, only to be greeted by cans of soup and salad dressing. I found myself becoming frustrated because I needed to go up and down each aisle a few times to find everything I needed. Indeed, I was not the only shopper frustrated with the change. Over the intercom system, they announced that salt was on aisle seven. The bakery clerk had no idea where my favorite bakery item had been stocked and was obviously frustrated with the change. Logically, I know that the change will be great, but I also understand the process will be less than fun.
Change has to happen. Change is Nature’s way of keeping things alive. Even accepting that change is a good thing, embracing the process can be difficult. It can be tempting to try to hold on to the way things were. However, I have found that, if I can focus on the way things will be and the gift the change will bring, I have less trouble dealing with the process. This focus is not always easy to accomplish, but it does cut down on the frustration.
I wish I could tell you I have found a way to turn frustration into fun, but I haven’t. It took me more than an hour to do my weekly grocery shopping (normally a thirty-minute chore). However, I do know that if you can focus on the outcome, the challenge of the change process can be easier to deal with. Accepting change and understanding that it is necessary and even desired, can also help as you traverse the challenge of change.
How do you deal with the frustration of change?
This week notice how you handle the frustration of change? Are you embracing change or fighting it every step of the way? Instead of being totally frustrated, create a strategy for making the process of change less upsetting and, thus, a little more palatable.
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Change + Frustration = Part of the journey
“Nothing endures but change.” Heraclitus
“A fanatic is one who can’t change his mind and won’t change the subject.” Sir Winston Churchill
“Men make history, and not the other way around. In periods where there is no leadership, society stands still. Progress occurs when courageous, skillful leaders seize the opportunity to change things for the better.” Harry S Truman
“Nothing changes more constantly than the past; for the past that influences our lives does not consist of what happened, but of what men believe happened.” Gerald W. Johnston