Peer pressure isn’t reserved just for teenagers. We can all feel the pressure from friends, colleagues and family to do what we don’t want to do. People try to pressure others into doing things for a variety of reasons. It doesn’t really matter what their reasons are, there is nothing wrong with passing when you don’t want to partake in an activity. You have the right not to do anything you don’t want to or don’t feel comfortable doing. You can pass if you want to.
The first assignment in a writing class was to free write to the statement, “I write because.” After fifteen minutes the instructor has us stop writing, and then she asked for volunteers to read what they had written. I was shocked because I had not realized we would be reading out loud what we had wrote, and I did not want to share. Slowly everyone read what he or she had written. The instructor called on me, and I said, “I pass.” I didn’t feel like I needed a big explanation or reason. I just passed. I was encouraged to share, but stood firm in my decision. It felt like a small victory.
It is okay to pass if you don’t want to do something. In the past, I have gone ahead and given in to what others wanted me to do and have never been happy with doing that. It is empowering when you are able to do what is best for you, and allow others to go on without you. There is nothing wrong with passing when you don’t want to, and you don’t have to explain why or offer an apology. Just a simple, “I pass” will do.
The next time you are asked to do something you don’t want to just pass. It isn’t as easy as it sounds, but practice makes perfect. Shortly after the writing class I had another opportunity to pass on an activity I didn’t want to do and it was much easier. Passing is like anything else. The more you do it the better you will become. So stand up for yourself and don’t let the peer pressure get to you, and pass when you want to.
Can you pass?
This week pass on the things you don’t want to. You will find that each time you pass it will get easier. And the more you pass on what you don’t want to do, the more time you will have to do the things you do want to do.
Daily Success Formula
Pass + Choice = Freeing
“People who ask our advice almost never take it. Yet we should never refuse to give it, upon request, for it often helps us to see our own way more clearly.” Brendan Francis